• anon_8675309@lemmy.world
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    3 hours ago

    I hate when a woman is mean to me for doing something nice like holding the door because she thinks I want to sleep with her. No ma’am, I don’t. I was just being nice. My wife has all that other stuff covered.

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      1 hour ago

      Sad thing is that having a spouse doesn’t at all stop a hell of a lot of people. To be clear, I’m not saying this is limited to men…all genders do this. I’ve personally never understood why. If you don’t want to be with your significant other, break up with them. It’s a zillion times worse to betray their trust and intimacy and then break up anyway when they find out.

    • Duamerthrax@lemmy.world
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      3 hours ago

      I’m just happy that around me, everyone just holds doors for everyone else, regardless of gender. Guys hold open doors for guys. Girls hold open doors for guys. It’s not weird.

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      54 minutes ago

      She ain’t saying they want to. She’s saying they think she wants to if she’s nice to them.

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    3 hours ago

    it’s ok.

    I’m a little mean to bitches because if you treat them like women they think they can be mean to you.

  • Boomer Humor Doomergod@lemmy.world
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    12 hours ago

    I just assume no one is interested in me ever, no matter how nice they are to me. I also go out of my way to avoid contact with humans in the first place.

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    13 hours ago

    Something about drinking poison and expecting the other to die comes to mind.

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    I feel like if a guy wants to know if a woman is interested explicit relations, he should just come out and ask, and if the answer is no, he should accept it. Why can’t clear and direct communication be a thing?

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      11 hours ago

      There’s safety in being indirect (you can retreat into the ambiguity), and there’s the “handshake” aspect of it too where it can prove they understand you on a deeper level than what’s explicitly on the surface.

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      13 hours ago

      Why can’t clear and direct communication be a thing?

      Because for the most part people assume everyone is on their wavelength. Put it online and the problem compounds due to context being stripped away.

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        In my experience men are much more clear when they like someone than women are. Men are less likely to make it a “game”. Men are more likely too push it even when rejected I won’t deny that, but women have done the same as well.

        My buddy recently got a new gf. He offered to go outside and start her car and clear the snow off of it. She no please don’t do that you aren’t even dressed yet. So he didn’t do it then she came home and expressed she was upset he didn’t try harder to do it anyway. They took that as a lesson and he pushes a little more on stuff like that but he also asked her to not say no directly like that and make it easier for him to insist.

  • HenriVolney@sh.itjust.works
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    11 hours ago

    Reminds me of the meme that goes something like : “she’s not into you. She’s hot and you’re horny, no the same thing.”