I don’t mean like how happy you are today. I mean overall, are you satisfied with everything you are up until this point? For me, for an example, I have a decent job that keeps my head just above water. I have a loving family that I see every couple months or weeks. I have the freedom to do what I want, when I want. But, overall, I’m sort of lonely and exhausted from constantly working. So, on a scale of 1 to 10, I’m about a 6.
Honestly? The last few years have been like a slow motion Trainwreck. My wife developed serious chronic health issues a few years ago and I’ve been unemployed for almost a year and a half. We’ve gone from being in a very good financial position to being virtually bankrupt. It has not been a good time.
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I’ve been seriously thinking I need to go back to therapy. Thanks for the motivation!
Sorry to hear that.
I wish you the best for years to come.
You might want to consider meditation, it helps a lot with dealing with difficult situations.
You can try Anapana in the beginning and Vipassana later, but really any meditation will help.
The key is to start small, maybe 2-3 minutes and gradually extend it.
Try not to stress about it and test which technique works best for you.
Ping me if you want to talk some more about this or anything else ;-)
0/10 - Cancer surgery in 11 days.
Don’t know if it helps, but having had cancer, it’s not the worst thing out there.
I’d rank years of dialysis higher, for example.
Death of a loved one too, easily.
With the cancer, you either know you’ll die fast and even get an estimate. But other stuff just slowly kills you and robs you of years of opportunity you can never get back, and you don’t know if you might die next month, next week, or next year.
Getting a chance to know you’re dying is a luxury, by few realize it. Heck even the foresight of it the possibility is. But the long term stuff? The slow, unsure deaths? That’s… Well, like I said, I don’t know if it helps, but I’ll say it could be much, much, much worse. Consider you’ll have time to prepare at least. It’s not much, it’s still a shit situation. Don’t know if you had the chemo yet and yeah, that’s pretty shit. But maybe realizing you have preparation time and a pretty black and white outcome can raise that 0 to a 1 or 2.
Chemo depends on the results of the surgery. Right now, it’s stage 2 which is resolved with surgery. If it gets into the lymph nodes, that bumps it to stage 3 and requires chemo.
So they pull the entire sigmoid colon and the related lymph nodes and send it all off for biopsy.
You should ask if maybe it’s best to do a round or two anyway as a preventative measure of they think it’s possible for it to hang around after the surgery. Better than waiting around for it to get worse, and while chemo is shitty 2 rounds max should be extremely tolerable.
Only thing though, is that if you do plan on having kids at any point in the future, you should look into reproductive freezing before starting chemo; especially if you’re already in your late 20s or beyond. They don’t necessarily tell you that - I luckily found out that’s important the night before my first chemo was planned.
Then again, you might also be in the USA where that might not be an affordable option.
Maybe not affordable and I wonder to if it’s like an anti-biotic. Once you start, you commit to the entire treatment.
We’ll see what the docs say once, you know, I get gutted like a fish. 😉 I already got cracked open like a lobster for the open heart surgery, what’s one more?
We need a bone cracked club shirt too lol
My wife says I’m not allowed to buy her the fun shirts:
so I have to settle:
Hopefully it all goes well! How would you rate it if it’s a successful procedure and you recover completely ?
Hard to say, recovery is going to be a bitch because, get this… 12 days after my diagnosis, 1 day before the CT Scan and 2 days before meeting the surgeon, my wife felt a numbness and tingling in her legs, tried to stand up and fell to the floor.
An infection she had been fighting in her foot moved to her spine and tried to paralyze her(!) She had emergency surgery on her spine that night, a lower leg amputation a few days later, and has now been in the hospital… (checks math) 14 days.
So there’s a real possibility we’ll both be hospitalized at the same time or, best case, in surgical recovery at the same time. She can’t come home until she completes rehab for the nerve damage and amputation.
Oh man, what can I even say. What a difficult situation to be in, I feel for you both. Hopefully your wife and you recover well and quickly. Damn. 😔🙏
Well fuck that’s a brutally rough patch
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4/10 - I am lucky to have the things I have, but my motivation is nonexistent, everything feels pointless and empty and I only watch as the world decays more day by day. Our next generation probably has either a nuclear end or an AI dystopia to inherit.
Remeber folks, happiness is a journey, not a destination.
3 or 4. Used to be around 1 last year.
There was a wave of bad events and bad decisions screwed up my life and career. I see some signs of improvement but not enough to say it has passed.
Can elaborate if anyone is interested
I’d like a refund.
7/10. Good job, good family. Just frustrating that it took a lot of stress and worry to get here, especially financially. Finally doing well but all of that is tempered by saving as much as possible due to basically having been poor up until about a decade ago, so even though we’re doing ok it’s kinda hard to enjoy because all of it goes to catching up for not having money for so long. Really sobering to understand that most people will never have the chance to “catch up.”
Well, I have a job, a roof over my head, food in my fridge, and for the first time in my entire life I’ve the ability to actually start doing hobbies and figure out what I actually like and who I am and I’m not being entirely held back by finances or people, although I’m still in a very financially tight spot. So I’m blessed for that.
On the other hand, my first waking thought every day is how lonely I am, it’s always the thing that keeps me awake, and I can’t sleep more than an hour or so at a time without waking up having panic attacks because I’m so miserable and alone. It’s not even about being in a relationship, I don’t even have a single friend anymore that I can just send a text to or talk to about something funny that happened in my day or anything. I’m so fucking lonely. I just want someone who will tell me about their day and share memes with me or something and make me feel like I’m not alone on this damned earth.
Depressed, 3/10.
Idk how to be independent so I’m stuck with my family of origin.
Anxious all the time, hearing Cantonese being spoken triggers me.
One thing I do appreciate is somehow the universe let me out of China, so now at least I can watch Youtube videos in depression, can’t imagine having to live behind the firewall. I personally didn’t even have internet when I was in China.
Could be worse so… eh…
FUCK TRUMP FUCK XI FUCK PUTIN
DOWN WITH THE CCP
DEATH TO XI JINPING
Lol that feels so good, this would’ve been illegal to say in China xD
My mom used to be 70% love 30% abuse, now its like 20% love 80% abuse. My older brother acts so threatening.
Seriously, if I had an older sister instead, maybe it would be more peaceful. I feel like males are just so aggressive, and I’m saying this as a dude…
well I mean my mom is also aggressive so… eh… idk honestly.
2/10 now that I have talk about it and it make me more depressed and I just feel like my soul melted into a puddle of depression again.
I’d say 8/10.
No real issues honestly, just chilling after graduating high school and soon getting into uni. Been eating a lot better too, since I’ve got a ton of time to experiment with easy and dirt cheap breakfasts mainly which are barely processed. Ive also been able to experiment with my massive fixation on technology, although I don’t have many more computers I can experiment with unless I quietly snatch a surface pro 4 from the storage room or smth.
What bugs me however, is how family members don’t really care when dozens of noises are occurring at once, like my dad with the tv on while also watching tiktoks, and that it seems nobody else but I get stressed and overstimulated from it. Due to this (and dozens of other things), I’ve suspected I’m autistic for like a year now, and I’ve been going good with cataloguing the reasons and doing official tests on it.
I’m doing pretty well, all things considered. I’m married to my best friend, we have a house, own two cars outright. We have enough land for a nice little garden, a nice garage I can work on projects in. We make over the median household income but my job isn’t particularly stressful. We have decent savings, can afford to go on a couple trips every year, unexpected expenses don’t totally ruin us. I have time and money to pursue my interests and treat myself to tools and books.
Sure my life could be better, but I’m pretty happy overall.
9/10. Love it. Great country, great family, lots of freedoms, and safe. I just wish the winters weren’t so long.
I’m pretty unhappy ngl. Shitty job, late '20s, never kissed a girl, can’t drive a car, and I still live with my parents. I’m one again working on self-improvement. I’m learning to forgive myself for past mistakes and failures. I’m told I’m overly critical of my self. I didn’t think I deserved to love myself for most of my life. It’s something i’m working on. I’m getting better in that regard. I don’t know where to go from there.
8/10 Many of the things I’ve wanted to do I’ve gotten to do. I have two sweet kids, though they’re more exhausting than I pictured. I’ve had jobs I’ve enjoyed and even make a little bit of money while I work towards my dream job of being a comedian. I have a girlfriend who loves me despite my chaotic life.
