• Lucky_777@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    Cut losses. If you find yourself hung up on her, go no contact until you’ve gotten over it. Too many other partners out there to be hung up on one that is having different feelings.

    Stay frosty out there, kings and queens.

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    8 months ago

    just take the L and move on, don’t embarrass yourself. people can see through that bullshit.

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    8 months ago

    A girl I had started dating friend zoned me. I played it off cool saying “wanna just be casual?” (I didn’t wanna just be casual). Almost 4 years later and we’re still together :)

    I think the moral of the story is you just have to trust the universe sometimes

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      8 months ago

      Just say 👍 and move on.

      If you want to hedgehog your bets, add “If you’re not married by 40, call me.”

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        8 months ago

        one of my besties, she confided in me that she had like six different people come up to her with that and she was tired of being people’s second, third, fourth, whatever choice. so one day at our biweekly lunch date, i told her “hey, if we’re both still single at 35, mudrer suicide?” and she about lost it laughing.

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    8 months ago

    Honestly, I’ve used “hey, can we keep it to friends” a lot over the years. Partners I’ve more earnestly turned down have sat there and quizzed me nonstop as to why, some have turned violent, and then there are the quiet ones that just slander you continually. Emotional blackmail is the bare minimum I’ve expected over the years.

    The amount of absolutely insane women out there is beyond frightening.