How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie
Old Dale sets out in the 1920s to find a book about how to get along with people and gain confidence. What’s the secret sauce? He travels to many universities, corresponds with professors and other learned men, all to find there is no such book of wisdom! So he wrote one.
First off, it’s not some step-by-step textbook. The author himself says you can open it to any given chapter and have a read. True! Most of it is Carnegie telling short stories of his experiences and what he learned about people. Couple of examples that stick with me:
He finds himself at a dinner party where the host will not, cannot STFU. The man goes on and on so Carnegie listens politely and hardly says a word. By the end of the evening the host is walking him out telling him what a great orator and conversationalist he is!
In another story a man is terribly afraid of some near-future event, I think he fears losing his job? Carnegie walks him through his fears always asking him to imagine the worst outcome and then asking if he could live with it, not die. The answer is always yes.
It’s long been in the public domain.
Huh. I have my own sayings for both of those scenarios. "The best way to be interesting is to be interested."
I should read this book.
It’s a good read (or listen if you’re into audiobooks) but it’s also easy to find the main points summarized.
Agreed! But the real-life stories hammer those points home.
Arch Linux Installation Guide = How to take back control over our own computing, plus some extra tech skills, useful irrespective of your occupation or hobbies. I would suggest doing it a second device, like when already buying a new computer, so your stuff stays safe on the old one.
Lmao it’s not Lemmy without Linux
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The phantom tollbooth, basic empathy.
Brown, Derren - Tricks Of The Mind. The chapter about memory.
We are only being taught in schools, but never taught how to learn.
The ENIAC, one of the original ‘programmable’ general purpose digital computers.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/ENIAC
https://books.google.com/books/about/ENIAC_the_Triumphs_and_Tragedies_of_the.html?id=l2nGQgAACAAJ
This was a significant era of computing history, and in the modern digital era, I think everyone should at least get a sense of the early days of digital technology.
“Nonviolent Communication” by Marshall Rosenberg.
The lessons for communication and non-reactivity will pay dividends in every aspect of your interpersonal relations. Work, friendships, romantic relationships, even dealing with customer disservice.