• NickwithaC@lemmy.world
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    22 days ago

    The premise of this advice is such bullshit! I recognised that I had a whole lot of love to give and no one to give it to so I went out and got into a relationship. It definitely made me happier and we’re 8 years in at this point.

    • yermaw@sh.itjust.works
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      21 days ago

      I tell my single friends it pretty much balances out. Being in a relationship (albeit a healthy one) definitely makes you happier, but it comes at a constant price of compromises.

      Loving someone and being loved is great, but i do miss playing online games with my microphone on until I pass out in my underwear covered in doritos dust.

      • zarathustrad@lemmy.world
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        21 days ago

        After 25 years of marriage (no kids), I can say that, if you make the right choices, you can have both lol. We both played WOW for a decade or two off and on, and still game, just less passing out, less online, and less Doritos… Because age.

      • TrackinDaKraken@lemmy.world
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        21 days ago

        Yes. Relationships always require ongoing compromise. No two people are identical in their desires or needs.

        For some people the benefits of a relationship offset the need for compromise, for others they don’t.

    • mrgoosmoos@lemmy.ca
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      21 days ago

      you said it made you happier, not that it took you from unhappy to happy

      it’s an important distinction