Especially getting older, I do this a lot more. Looking at things I want to do that ive been putting off, for example. If I have the money, I’m doing it. Now I’m not going full Yes Man on it, but I much prefer living like this. You could very easily die tomorrow so you should do everything you want to while you can, basically.
A lot of people I know seem to lock themselves in this invisible box of “I can’t” when they totally can. Obviously, finances is all of our biggest limiting factor in this. But even a lot of wealthier people just dont ever really do what they really want, either out of fear of being judged or failing etc. And then, boom, brain cancer, you’re dead in 6 months.
So I say, live it up!!
Now this doesnt mean blow your life savings on cocaine, unless thats really your thing.
On one hand, planning for the future makes sense.
On the other, I don’t want to be the richest man in the graveyard.
That was my excuse to keep smoking. Having kids changed that.
Well I’d say thats not the healthy way to look at it. Not a total yolo, more like I’m gonna do what I want and enjoy while not caring what others think . you definitely won’t enjoy smoking or drinking in excess down the road.
Every few months I will treat myself to something I want. Then take a break and save up money.
I love that dopamine hit from getting something new. But then again, most of the stuff I buy are tools or something that makes me do MORE work. I don’t like spending $1000 on a vacation, I just don’t enjoy them like other people do.
I live with the premise that I will die but I also live with the premise that I will be old for a significant portion of my life.
Personally I’m trying to maximize longevity but I’ll still do risky things if the consequences are things I feel I can deal with
I do the same
It’s always a balancing act.
I’m being careful. Careful with my health, and careful with my money. Because, I don’t want to be a burden to my son, and I want to leave him my house, when I die. It’s probably the only way he’ll become a homeowner, the way things are now.
I’d love to blow a big chunk of money traveling, but I have priorities, and I can’t afford both.
So, yeah, I could, but I won’t.
You could do both if you travel cheaply. Exploring keeps you healthy, consider it medicine that you need.
I had a tattoo I wanted for years. I was like well it’s going to be really expensive and I shouldn’t spend the money on it while I have these expenses coming up. A few years and a divorce later, well, I really want this tattoo, but I have student loans and a car loan and it would be really irresponsible of me to pay for a tattoo instead of putting extra money towards those. Yes I could work a bunch of OT to pay for it, but if I work a bunch of OT then I should take that money and put it towards becoming debt free. Maybe when I pay them off I’ll get it. Then it hit me that I won’t have my loans paid off until I’m in my 40s, even at the rate I’m going (making double payments every month).
Tattoo was finished yesterday. I could have paid off one of my loans with what it cost, but fuck it’s absolutely beautiful. The artist is a painter who tattoos and it legit looks like a painting on my skin.
Never, I’m trapped in my job and life. Everytime I get the opportunity to do something I want, something always takes it away from me. Whether it’s work, money, or life in general. I want to run away and experience life, experience the world, but I can’t.
What about not fully running away and abandoning everything , but just doing things little steps at a time?
If you have your health, you really can do anything. Even if its just a weekend drive a few hours away, that’s still something. You dont need to go clear accross the world in one go
It’ll be nice to do that. But, it’s only temporary. It’d be cool to run away forever, or even just for a month. Life has been sucky
Its not so much fuck it i could die in two years lets do what i want. Its more damn, i could die in two years, i need to ensure i take better of my body
Thats all good, we should eat healthy and exercise , but thats still not going to stop you from getting brain cancer etc.
Funny enough despite being older than a grandparent ever lived to be and losing my mom kinda young, I never do. I already am living like I might die young or might die old. And I always kinda assumed I’d die young, but I don’t say fuck it or assume it’s coming soon. It’s more that I’ve been living as wildly as I care to since my early 20s because if I put it off until I’m older it’s sad, but if it’s just how I live it’s living life to the fullest. All that said, I financially highly value the ability to remain stable through all of life’s hiccups, and I’d rather keep that stability and put off getting to see the Alps, than be a spendthrift.
My wife had 2 strokes last year. I am quitting my job of 22 years next month mostly due to the company’s work from home policy.
I know not everyone is in a position to just up and quit their jobs, especially this day and age, but life is short.
I don’t have that specific approach to life.
But I do have a “Fuck, I could end up in a hospital with an IV in my arm” approach to trying to keep my body healthy.
Well, I’m in that state right now, and I think I’m gonna be in it continuously until the biopsy results come back.
When I was told I was gonna die of cancer in 2 years. Lots of burgers, fries, and beer.
In 2 years, I’ll be older than my oldest known ancestor made it. I’m not that old. I think about it every day. The point of life isn’t being happy or comfortable, it’s finding and creating meaning.
Thats crazy! Pretty cool.
For sure. There’s so much to life to enjoy that doesn’t get taken advantage of
Pretty cool.
Is it.
I spend time with my kids, and to a lesser extent my wife but also her, but mostly the kids. “They grow up so fast,” turns out that was true, and so in an effort to not miss it, I will sacrifice potential earnings to spend more time with them.
And if I think hard about it, the time with them has much more value than some extra money. And is it a risk? Maybe. Maybe my job disappears in 10, 5, 2 years and were fucked, but I’ll figure something out. I just know that my kids will also disappear in 10 years, and I need to make sure that I’ve maximized my time with them, and that I’ve given them the tools necessary to also “figure something out,” because life is hard and it’s always been hard, and it’s a little easier if you’ve got the ability to solve problems.
That and I don’t think too terribly hard about what I eat. I exercise every day, I get my annual physical, and so long as those two things continue, and everything is good, I’m not going to stress over portions and whatnot.
