Like…
Idk why my mom got upset at me for making songs with lines like “This cruel world” or “The darkness of the skies”
I just want some catharisis¹ okay, what’s wrong with that?
(¹Am I even using this word correctly?)
I think my parents are just boring and doesn’t appreciate art lol…
- You’re using catharsis correctly.
- Parents just don’t understand.
It seems like a copout but this is a cycle that has happened many many times. Your brain is developing and you’re exploring deeper concepts that reflect your new understanding of the world and it’s darknesses. Just a few years ago you were a much simpler animal to understand, and your parents probably took some pride in their ability to manage your emotions and keep you happy. Now you’re moody and pulling away, and they, like many parents before them, are getting worried. When you were younger they were your whole world, so they take it a little personally when they hear you talking about cruelty and darkness. It can make them feel like they’re not in control and that they can’t help. So they get worried in ways that they weren’t expecting and over react. Hopefully they can reflect on it and learn that your world isn’t focused on them anymore, but not all parents can make this leap of introspection.
Ultimately you’re not wrong, and they’re not wrong. It’s just a part of growing up.
I don’t get how so many parents forget being teenagers.
I think some people literally skip this phase of teenage, or they just skim the surface … and because many humans lack empathy, they assume anyone who says otherwise is being over dramatic or is mentally unstable
Those two lines made them upset?!
That’s nothing compared to regular teen angst content.
I was told to “stop being negative” and “think happy thoughts” and my depression problems will go away!
Wow Dr. Mom with the Psychology PhD in WeChat Social Media University! I’m so cured! 😭
(not a teen anymore, just a dependent young adult with depression, still with a teen brain that never really “grew up” lol)
The more I hear from you the more it seems your mom is completely oblivious to your world and your thoughts. I’m glad you are talking to us, and I hope you also have friends who can give you even better advice (and maybe a therapist when you can get there).
Just know you’re doing a truckload of things rn so if you manage to make it, that’s incredible, and if you shut down and need to take your time, that’s completely understandable even if your mom doesn’t get it.
My dms are always open if you need to talk to someone ^^
Not at all.
I’d try to find a way to explore those feelings with them. Maybe share some things I’ve seen or experienced that make me feel that way.
And then end with something that brings us both joy together.
The lesson should be that negative feelings are real and valid even when they’re overwhelming, and that there is a path through them while still accepting them as real and a part of you. And that there’s still joy to be found on the other side.
Strength doesn’t mean you don’t feel pain. It means you accept it and still define your life as you choose to.
So, yeah… Your catharsis is valid as fuck, my man.
Getting upset with your child for expressing negative emotions is deeply unhelpful no matter what’s going on.
Just got a call from the school a few weeks ago about something my daughter was overheard saying at school. I thanked them for reaching out, but she’s just in a dark humor phase right now, and she often says wacky shit as a joke.
Hahaha my goodness…I listened to Death Metal and my lyrics were definitely not a cry for help…but definitely horrible and super duper cringe.
Ah, I see you’re back for your periodic dose of Your-Mom-Is-Full-Of-Shit.
Reminds me of my own mom. When I was younger and started writing my own stuff, she’d similarly complain that what I wrote was too negative. So I demanded she supply me with a topic she’d approve of, and she came back with - and I’m seriously not making this up - “Making children happy at Christmas!”
Yeah, I never wrote that song.
You do you bro. Write whatever dark shit is in you to write. I don’t have to tell you why it’s a good thing - you already innately know why. Don’t show it to your mom because she doesn’t get it and stop pretending she will.
I’m the kind of acidic fuck who’d say something like, “Mom, you know why I’m so negative? Because it was your job to raise me as a positive kid and you failed. And it’s a failure you’ll never be able to atone for.”
