1. That must be quite frustrating and difficult for your self esteem.

2. You may be right, but you might be putting your own insecurities on to the motivations of others. The world from other people’s perspective don’t always align with what we think. Could what you describe be as easily explained by something else, perhaps even your insecurity about it?

3. Have you discussed this issue with friends / family and gotten their honest thoughts? Do they agree that what you say could pose a problem?

4. Have you attempted to make yourself look older with makeup and such? Are the results the same with as without?

5. Do you have male friends you can ask if you are attractive?

6. Are there republican conventions nearby? If the men there show interest and say you’re mature for your age, you may want to A. Run B. Conclude that your features may be a challenge.

7. If men don’t approach and talk to you, try approaching and talking to them. Showing you’re interested and available is usually a turn on. Men are simple.

Best of luck.

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Just pluck up the courage to hit on guys… 80% of men will find that in of itself attractive, especially the more shy ones. As another comment said, men are fucking simple.

Is there anything you can do to make yourself look your age? Makeup, clothing, push-up bra, etc? Maybe go to age restricted locations (for example, in the U.S. there are some bars that require patrons to be at least 18/21 and they check ID’s at the door to verify)?

First of all you may be right or wrong about the reason. But you can’t really change looking young (other than by sitting around and waiting, which is not very fun). So you’ll get a lot of mileage by coming to terms with what you look like. For your own peace of mind if nothing else.

You can artificially change your looks to a limited degree with makeup. I’m no expert.

Are you putting yourself into positions where it’s socially acceptable and/or easy for men to approach you? Are you looking like you want to be approached? Headphones on while reading in the library makes me think you’ll want me dead if I say hi. Near me at the table at a social gathering it’s rude of me not to introduce myself and attempt some small talk (as long as you’re not talking to your friends already).

1. Visible tattoos. Have to be off legal age to get a tattoo, right?

2. Talk to them. Even if it’s awkward, it’s practice.

Ever try hanging out at a crowded bar? Anywhere where you have to show id to enter should help.

Also, do you have female friends? You should be hanging out with them and doing things where you meet people as a group.

Try talking to them, keep a conversation going long enough they’ll realize they’re talking to an adult. Talking and making connections is the most important thing.

A lot of the people here gave great advices, but i wanna add a comment. Based on my experiences with the women in my life, most (if not all sometimes) insecurities stem from projection. Which is sadly a problem that amplifies itself.

It’s not an easy mentality to overcome though but i find knowing this fact, and thinking about it whenever your brain gets all those bad thoughts, can be a good defence. At least it makes it easier to try or start to overcome your insecurities.

Good luck :)

You didn’t speak much about body composition: Have you considered going to the gym? Adding a few pounds (of muscle) never hurts anyone and it give you a few curves, I.e. a bigger bottom (width and depth) and a more pronounced waist (to hip ratio). Also, being in shape generally livens up your skin, giving you a more vibrant appearance. Also, it has to the potential to increase your self confidence.

It sounds like youre being limited by your self perception. That’s okay. We all are in some way, especially at your age.

The first thing you need to do is turn your intuition inwards. You’ve put a lot of thought into how others see you but that energy be better spent exploring how you see yourself.

Your judgement of yourself is the most constant presence in your life. Others may come and go. Some may think you look child like, some may disagree vehemently. What’s most important is how you see yourself.

The goal is to adjust your perception a little less towards how you look and a little more towards how you feel, because the latter is as if not more important in connecting with another person.

People can tell when a person is feeling confident / secure or scared / vulnerable. It’s possible to connect with others in many different states of mind but easier to in the former.

I’ve met many different men and women in my life. The ones that find it easiest to find companionship are those that feel good about themselves and in some way feel good about the world. The first step is to look within, find what you love about yourself and let that be your window into everything.

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