Work hard, show up and you will get a pay raise, you will get promoted.
Yeah no didn’t work that way.
You want a pay raise, find a new job.
It’s all anecdotes but I’ve found that jumping has raised me incrementally, but I’ve never had a job I’ve truly mastered, nor have I had a job where they rewarded longevity.
So those two variables mean it’s continuously adapting and learning but not mastering anything yet (in order to grow and survive)
The trick is finding jobs that synergize to an broader overall industry. If you’re moving every 3yrs or so that’s plenty of time to learn many of the specifics of the job and markets you’re in. You treat each job as a training assignment for becoming an expert in the field.
For example
If you start out marketing for a pharmeceutical company You’re next move could be marketing for a bio-pharma company After that you move to marketing for phjarmaceutical ingredients After that you move to marketing for a drug delivery devices Then you can go to medical devices materials
NOW YOU ARE A MARKETING EXPERT IN HEALTHCARE
“They are your ___. You should forgive and make up because they are your ___.”
Took a bit of maturing, but I’ve learned you don’t have to forgive people and certainly you don’t have to let them back in your life, even if they are family. Some people just aren’t cut out for their role in your life. Biological or otherwise.
“We don’t turn our back on family!”
When I took my aggressive rescue dog to special training. “Does he know who pays the bills? Make sure he watches you pay bills then that’s how he knows that you are the alpha.”
I wish I could make this shit up. Needless to say, the dog didn’t care, the training sucked and nothing helped from that class. $500 down the drain.
That is entirely bunk. Sorry you had to go through that my friend.
Thanks. That “trainer” was an idiot.
That’s hilarious, but even if they’d used an example with something that the dog could actually understand, it’s still bunk, because all of that “alpha” stuff is based on junk science. Those people trying to “establish dominance” are just bullying their dogs for no good reason.
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“You need to know how to do this, you won’t always have a calculator on you.”
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I think the problem is it’s taught in a really bad way.
I remember having to do all sorts of trigonometry stuff, but I don’t think anybody ever explained why this would be useful.
When I was about to graduate highschool I was told to “Make sure I pick a university with a football team I was comfortable supporting the rest of my life”.
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The schools with the top football teams tend to be pretty good schools.
“Family wants the best for you, listen to us.”
“You’ll save so much time making an illegal u-turn here. Don’t be a pussy, there’s no cops! Nobody else is out, it’s totally safe!” There was one other person out. It was a cop.
Just wait, the right person will come along.
Turns out that doesn’t work for guys.
Yep. Grew up in a house full of women, so I heard this a lot. Also, “the right person comes when you’re not looking,” so I never looked. Terrible advice.
Yeah I’m finding that piece of advice is worthless. I say, just look over your shoulder once in a while, but never not go looking at all. Some of the best people I’ve dated was because I just simply glanced over, but I can’t say any of them we’re ‘the right ones’ because they happened to be because I wasn’t looking.
Dating advice from older men in general. The shit they got away with was wild
“Join the army, you’ll give your new wife and unborn son a future.”
“You can always count on family.”
Did Dom tell you that?
“Get pregnant. It will fix your endometriosis.” My boss, who was tired of me calling out due to pain.
Advice I did not take because that’s not how that works.
Any of them that’s vague but of course it’s dependent on context.
The ‘be yourself’ one bothers me the most. There’s parts of myself that I don’t like, why would I want to get cozy with it?
Oh and especially “do what makes you happy”. I’m sorry but I deal with suicide on a semi-regular basis and what if one day I decide I want to go and I feel that is what will make me happy in that mindframe. Would that be okay? No it wouldn’t.
You can make “willing to change and improve” part of who you are. I think far too many people interpret “be yourself” as “never change, improve, or self-reflect”, when it should really mean something more like “don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t”. Any changes you make should be sincere. Being yourself doesn’t have to mean being stagnant.
Know the parts of yourself to keep to yourself is pretty valuable advice. I think “Be Yourself” is better described as “Be yourself- except for that, and that, and that, oh and probably keep that shit to yourself bro- that’s fucked up.”
Peel your scabs off so you don’t get a scar.
Wait, I was told not to pull off scabs so they don’t scar.
“Join Lemmy”
