It wouldn’t change for me. I don’t even have friends on the internet.
Serious answer:
If the internet didn’t exist, I’d be peer pressured into following whatever norms are followed by all the people in my physical surrounding. I’d take my cues from what my parents and family and classmates told me were “right” and I wouldn’t question outside it.
I’d probably spend more time “socializing”, which as an introvert would exhaust me. But I wouldn’t know any different, so it would just be The Way It Is.
But you asked if my social life would be “better”, and better is hard to define. Better for… general community compliance? Probably. Better for my general mental health? Probably not.
I like spending 15 minutes catching up on my Lenny communities and reading what you degenerate fucks are up to. I am less excited about “going out with friends” every night and “doing something”.
I would probably have more “friends” but mostly because I’d probably still be resigned to putting up with a lot of toxic people.
The internet, while antithetical to mental health for the most part, did bring the destigmatization of self-care/boundaries and basic mental health.
Pretty sure that would make things worse.
Nope. I actually remember a time when the Internet didn’t exist, and I didn’t have a social life then either. At least through the power of Internet, I can group chat my buddies when we can’t get together.
No, my internet friends are as real as the IRL friends I have.
Oh heavens, I don’t even want to think about me without the net!
I was a nerdy introvert raised in a moderately abusive house, in a small town with hardly any other kids. I had zero social skills.
Got internet at 16, and now I could talk to anybody with no real barrier to entry. I spent a lot of years being oblivious and a borderline incel before learning to get my act together, but I can only imagine I’d be much more socially awkward and probably still be a jerk and much more conservative if I hadn’t been able to talk to so many other people and especially with people of the opposite sex.
I still keep a small friend group, but I like to think it’s more by choice now 😅
Social life? No. But i defo don’t think society would be hindered by fewer social media or social platform sources.
There’s some social platforms that I straight out avoid due to the toxicity of the platform as a whole, while overall I think online has made my social life better, it definitely has a pretty heavy consequence as well.
Maybe, I dunno, I’ve always been terrible with keeping in contact with people so likely not. I was hanging out with people constantly when I was in school but that was easy because school put me in constant social contact with those people.
I’m in the same boat, I love talking with my friends, but I always forget that I have that option. Once you leave my circle of proximity, you might as well be dead.
I will always have my cats
Edit: seriously, though, I had a much more active social life before the Internet existed. The Internet really kind of “became a thing” when I was around 20. Life before that was a lot of fun.
The Internet came with the promise of being able to learn and to know anything, but it came with the obligation that you must learn and know everything. In many ways, it’s a burden.
I don’t know. It’s something I think about a lot, especially when I’m wasting too much time online. But it really isn’t that simple. I had lots of friends and saw them pretty regularly, but I moved countries to be with my partner and I’m very happy with that choice and our life together.
But I don’t speak the language here, I’m learning but slowly. So if I wasn’t in message groups, sharing memes and video chatting my friends back home I’d feel pretty lonely. And it would make the couple of trips home each year much more awkward. By keeping in touch so regularly it feels totally normal to spend the day with a friend, even if I haven’t seen them in 9 months because I know all the little things they’ve been up to or excited about.
On the other side, if I had none of that, maybe I would have worked harder at learning the language. Especially with the lack of distractions the internet provides (being able to watch tv in English instead of local stuff is probably the biggest hurdle to learning), but realistically we’re busy and live in the country, so if I had some intermediate language skills and was vastly more lonely I’d probably not have made any real friends. I’d just go to some more social events in the year and participate a bit akwardly and feel sad.
Where did you move to?
France. It’s great and i love being here, but I teach English so there’s a lot of having to speak English and not a lot of push to speak French. Things should quite down in six months and I hope to be able to focus more on French and start actually gaining confidence in talking.
France sounds wonderful to live in!
I wish I could speak French but mine is very beginner. And it’s not France French.
You’ll catch on quickly once you start, I’m sure. :)
Nope, I choose not to have friends because I have anxiety and don’t like people. Girlfriend and family is enough :)
No.
But it would still help.
(due to social media bubbling)
Well, better in what way? You can have loads of friends and still be lonely af. You can talk to some strangers at a bar and not have any real intimacy or heart-to-hearts. I don’t get it. For me, probably not. I’d probably be at some cafe or at some geeky library hiding away from people 'cause I don’t wan to deal with all that 24/7.
deleted by creator
