I’m a native, and I’d agree. But it’s a funny post so, I’ll ignore that.

So, prime number are the smoothest?

I love fuuturama, and might even agree with op’s point. But this is very far from a meme.

As others have said, i don’t think there’s a single ‘real’ you behind some mask. But I do think that that being around some people or in some situations requires a lot of conscious effort to make things work. And on the other side, there are people who make us feel safe, or bring the best out of us, or just inspire us to have fun.

When I’m around good friends and loved ones, i experience being free, liberated and my best and happiest self. But with everyone I’m still filtering, adapting and finding common ground with them. There’s stuff I’ll talk about with one friend that I wouldn’t mention to another. There’s jokes I might make in one place but not in another. But I don’t feel I’m masking, it just isn’t possible to be everything all the time.

Yup, blocked.

If you’re just under your calorie target, you can add high calorie snacks or toppings to gain weight. Do you like nuts and seeds? Avacados? Olive oil? Cheese?

You can buy or make lots of nice high fat nut snacks, roast them with your favourite spices if you like flavour or just a little salt if you prefer blander stuff. Snack on them throughout the day, and schedule times to have a portion of you’re not naturally a snacker. Sprinkle them over salads or rice bowls or whatever.

Dip nice bread in olive oil and vinegar (with some zatar or other spice mixes if your like). Shallow fry things in olive oil - take slices of nutrious but calorie light vegetables, dip in a simple tempura batter of cornflour and water, then fry in olive oil. Crispy, fresh, delicious and lots of calories.

So you eat desert? Start having nice fruit with heavy cream poured over the top. Use cream in sauces or add to mashed potatoes, vegetable gratins, etc.

I’ve always been attracted to folks with cute & youthful vibe. But when I was a teen that was pretty restricted to other teens, even the ‘young looking’ twenty year olds who were playing high-school students on TV obviously looked older and therefore less attractive to me.

But now I’m in my 40s my range of who looks youthful and hot is much wider. Now I find 20s hotter than teens, 30s can look pretty youthful, and I’m not super attracted to older people, but I find them less gross because I’m used to what older bodies look like (I have one!). And since physical attractiveness is just one part of overall attraction, I’d probably find a cute & 39 person more overall attractive than cute & 19, just because my experience is that most 39 year olds are funnier and more socially skilled than teenagers.

I can’t imagine every finding a 70 year old hotter on a physical level to 20 year old. But I can imagine being so content and in love with my elderly partner that I didn’t care that much.

Is that dark gravy in the meat juice + stock + flour sense or that crazy white paste from “biscuits” & “gravy”? Some sort of sauce makes sense, because I’m concerned it’s all a bit dry…

That’s the thing, they don’t seem opposite enough to me. Iove salty sweet: salty caramel, bacon and cheddar on pancakes, I even dip chocolat chip cookies in hummus if I’m in the mood.

The texture of the waffles (crisp on the outside, fluffy in the middle) seems not that far away from the chicken (crispy / crunchy on the outside, juicy in the middle). Both are fatty, but also dryish - obviously still moist, but dry in a crispy way. I could imagine having chicken curry on waffles, the saucy texture would be a nice contrast, but fried chicken…

I guess I’ll just have to try it!

Huh, this made realise I don’t think I’ve ever dreamed about punching something. And I’ve had many decades of quite vivid and varied dreams.

I’m glad I looked that up. Pi is wrong. I’m a convert.

I just looked at the top 10 posts for the last month, and 10 newest posts, and they’re really not that negative. I’d say it’s a third quite positive, a third fediverse / tech, and a third quite negative.

But humans perceive negative information much more strongly (at least according to some studies) so even though they’re evenly split, the negative ones might stand out and be more salient. This month’s top ten included “Why does it feel like evil is winning in the world?” (negative) versus "what’s your favourite local dish from your part of the world? (positive). The positive one could feel small and trivial while the negative one feels big, serious and apocalyptic - so of course it stands out more.

As well as salience, people are more likely to post about a problem than a solution (it is asklemmy after all), so it’s really going to be problems, big and small, or fun / silly questions like the local food one. Even more neutral questions about advice are often revolving around a negative problem. I’ve just posted asking about good alternatives to discord (fairly neutral I think?) and I’m hoping for positive “this other thing is great!” responses, but I’m kinda asking because I’m sick of enshitification (which is negative).

The other possibility is that the new and top rankings are not representative. Perhaps posts are mostly mixed but the ones that get popular are more negative, but the occasional popular poistive one is such a pleasant surprise that it ends up making it to the top ten.

I just switched to librewolf and was recommended Fennec on my phone (so far so good!)

That’s a good idea. I didn’t know about that site

That finding is pretty mind blowing!

Yeah, when life wasn’t going well I’d sometimes buy a lottery ticket just to indulge in a fantasy of what would happen if I won. But then I’d find myself focusing on what would happen if I died and how I’d write my will…

Totally. And eventually people get to the age where “embarrassing” medical stuff is so common that it doesn’t even raise an eyebrow. Just be matter of fact about it, if you don’t act like it’s embarrassing then they won’t either.

As a casual suggestion, it’s fine by me. I like the broad idea of encouraging people to upvote and encourage stuff they want to see more of, rather than focus on down voting stuff they don’t agree with. But I suspect most people already upvote much more than they downvote so the ratio of 2:1 wouldn’t affect many people’s behaviour (although be interesting to see some stats on that!). And my prejudice is the small number of chronic downvoters would work around any rule, just like the freekarma subs on reddit.

So putting aside the technical difficulties, it seems like a change that wouldn’t substantial modify general behaviour, and wouldn’t prevent bad actors (although it might make their lives a little more hassleful, which isn’t a bad thing). I think that’s why people have been suggesting psychological solutions, because developing a lemmy culture where people don’t care about points is probably less effort and more effective than adding ratios that don’t change much. But it’s not an awful idea, and if it was introduced it wouldn’t bother me. Tbh, I’d be fine with removing all up /down votes and we could go back to forum style of actually writing what you liked or didn’t about a post.

Yeah, as far as I understand it the way that fediverse communities work is that whoever makes and moderate them get to decide what they’re for, what rules, etc. and then there’s a level of emergent culture that arises depending on what users actually engage in the community, even if it doesn’t live up to the name.

I can totally sympathise with frustration about what different communities end up being like, and being told “why don’t you make your own c/globalnews?” isn’t a simple solution. But as others have said, perhaps it’s not as bad as it feels to you right now. If you’ve been the victim of online bullying (which is what someone going through your post history and blanket down voting everything is) of course that’s going to feel awful, but the actual down votes are a very small part of the issue. Lemmy doesn’t have that many posts, so I come across loads of low (and even negative) rated posts. If there’s groupthink that leads to some of your posts being down voted to oblivion, it’s not nice to see, but plenty of folks are still seeing your posts. And when I see something in negative votes I will often check it out just to see what’s up, and sometimes it’s something dumb and awful, and sometimes it’s just a unpopular opinion. So while banning down votes might feel nicer, because it would mask all the people disliking your posts, it probably wouldn’t find lots of people who suddenly agree with you.

I think if someone is sad and obsessive enough to go through a user’s post history to give a hundred down downvotes… Then they’d probably also be fine with scrolling through All and up voting two hundred posts first.

I would imagine my ratio is at least 20 upvotes per downvote, but I still wouldn’t want it throttled. A lot of my down votes are when I think something doesn’t belong in a community, and I feel like I’m contributing positively to lemmy by downvoting inappropriate or dreadful things. If they were rationed I’d be tempted to just avoid contributing to 'save them".

If there was going to be a weird rule about downvotes, I’d be more tempted to limit them to members of the communities. That way people on All don’t downvote some niche post that isn’t to their tastes but is perfect for the little community it was posted to.