See my mom just forced me to graduate early, stole all of my scholarship money, and no one told me that taking Calc 3 and 17 hours of engineering classes as a 17 year old was a bad idea! I lost my national merit scholarship and had to sell my body to creepy old dudes to get a college degree in a field that said “no more trannies allowed” 3 years after I graduated!
My college plans basically got derailed bacause I can’t control my emotions it fucking consumed me. I’m just a puddle of sadness now. I feel so dumb that I don’t even know where to get weed.
Average Chinese-American experience. I have no idea how the fuck, that my Chinese American classmates were able to handle all that shit their parents throw at them.
Every time the adults talk to each other, its end up with “so-and-so’s kid is taking college classes and they’re not even 16” or some bullshit.
Or the “Your cousin (Who’s also a US Citizen) is doing bussiness in [Some other country in Europe or Southeasr Asia]”
And they didn’t give me a phone when it was the smartphone era when everyone had one, so I was just the loser/weirdo sitting in the cornet staring at the wall during lunch and I can’t even finish homework because I don’t have a phone to look up google classroom, so much time wasted being bored.
Yea you wonder why I have self-esteem issues and no friends, no social life, and depressed as fuck.
Where the fuck do I get weed? (Also isn’t it like federally illegal in the US? Expecially considering… current politics… ahem #47 ahem)
What I’m reading:
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You want to be successful. When you get compared to your family members, you wish they were proud of you too, because you trust and value their opinion and want to contribute in a meaningful profession.
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You like being around people. You’d love to have the latest technology so you can not only participate in class, but also relate to the people around you.
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You’re a responsible person. You want to avoid legal trouble and stick to following laws and social norms.
I don’t have any advice, but I just wanted to point out the wonderful things I noticed about you, and I hope you find your path or some peace soon.
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👏 Modern 👏 Honors 👏 Programs 👏 Exist 👏 To 👏 Segregate 👏 Integrated 👏 Schools 👏
Your kid isn’t special. They just came out on the top side of a system designed to deprive a percentage of your neighbors of quality elementary education.
I wanted to comment because I’ve seen your comments and thought of you as a thoughtful commentator and I suspect we have similar political alignments.
My child is in an urban school district. For several school board administrations, the focus has been on equity prioritizing black and indigenous peoples. I agree with this. I think systemic racism has led to the deterioration of these communities resulting in a downward spiral that we, as a society, have to work hard and pull out of.
My child performed well enough to be invited to the alternative, accelerated program for highly gifted students. We decided noto send him as he was well integrated into his school, but his performance is an outlier in his cohort. For a number of reasons I won’t go into, his current school is a language immersion school. It is unique because it was started by the language speaking community and has operated for several decades. It takes children from all over the district via lottery. It sounds like equity at first, but there’s a limited number of people who can spare the time to send their kids to a school not in their district (bussing can help) and learn a language that isn’t their primary one. This has helped him not be incredibly bored the entire school day.
His school is a mixture that leans towards the affluent. The language community that supports the program is a “model” minority and it attracts affluent people for the reasons stated above. The school performs well in testing and their funding reflects that. Unfortunately, this has led to the worst class room ratios in the entire district and high performing children are neglected because teachers need to make sure those not meeting the norm or need the help to meet the norm are getting that help. Giving these people that help is very important. Neglecting high performers deprives them of metacognative skills.
High performers need to accelerate and be challenged in a way that is different. Their brain solve problems weirdly, sometimes rigorously, sometimes with leaps that don’t make sense to anyone but themselves. While my kid isn’t in the top ten percent of the top one percent, these kids need special attention that our system can’t provide.
All of this isn’t to say you’re wrong. I think parents perpetuate a system that lets them access the basic education that we all deserve and find perpetually underfunded.
High performers need to accelerate and be challenged in a way that is different.
That’s a theory, certainly. I’ve seen others, suggesting that kids can perform better when they collaborate with their peers. More advanced kids who tutor a subject they’re familiar with outperform advanced students who simply race on to the next lesson.
But, broadly speaking, the three prerequisites for a good education are
- Small Class Sizes
- Educated/experienced teachers with a focus in the field they’re covering
- Well fed/rested students
“Gifted” programs tend to shrink their class cohorts and provide more experienced teachers. Their kids come from wealthier families that don’t let them leave the house hungry. A lot of the behavioral problems you see in “low” performing students are the consequences of hunger and stress.
That’s the difference.
When schools provide breakfast programs and equitably distribute resources, offer social services rather than bullying kids with police, and keep the lesson plan from being busy work everyone hates, they improve the performance of the entire student body rather than a select privileged sub community.
I agree with the bulk of what you’re saying. I think those three points are essential. I’m even a strong proponent of collaborative learning. Hell… I forgot to include a paragraph on it, unschooling, and free schooling.
I think programs like Math Circles focus on creative engagement with the material through collaboration. The instructor engages with the conversation flow and hints in directions when they get stuck. This type of engagement is crucial and requires small class sizes. My kiddo is a talker and gets labeled as an “innovator” or just “a little disruptive”.
And in no way am I suggesting making the race on to another subject, rather, engaging at different depths for subjects they’ve shown competency in or are actually bored with. Hell, this is true for all students. Different depths may be the thing that spark engagement.
I think segregated gifted classes are a mistake. In class acceleration, exploring at depth, compacting, interest led projects, and backfilling with a well educated teacher who, frankly, the kid likes goes a long way. For a while, he wanted to be a second grade teacher because she used to have very little rules and kids wouldn’t get in trouble for being themselves. She was also probably the oldest teacher at the school with the warmest disposition.
He is, to my hesitancy, choosing to accelerate into the next grade for one subject. Normally, I’d be a pretty hard no, but he has genuine excitement to do so. That and a non trivial portion of their math is on a computer. The computer is filled with crap animation and rote engagement that it slows him down which means boredom for him.
I’m a little hesitant to back tutoring especially at this age. He’s so invested in being smart that it gets in the way of being present in the way one needs to be to clarify mistakes and introduce concepts. Hell, identifying where one makes a mistake and how to guide someone back to the core concepts is a skill. And many kids need the repition to demonstrate competency. Getting a kid who just “gets it” to tutor is a mistake until they are a little older.
Kids who are gift still require unique engagement. I met a 12 year old whose math skills far exceeds my kid’s ability. He was, still at that age, trying to get me to light up with his knowledge. And I was happy to. He had the math skills I had at 16 or 17, but emotionally he was a 12 years old. He was in no way suited to teach anyone yet. But he needed to talk with people who were capable and interested in hearing what he was learning. It was a lot of fun for me to do so.
So I largely agree: well fed students with competent, connected teachers who have a class size that lets them actually connect is definitely the starting point. Part of that connection, though, is tailoring the material to the specific child’s needs and helping where they need it. Collaboration and creative exploration is also important. But each kid moves at a different speed and being supported by kids who are moving neither too fast nor too slow will create an exciting atmosphere for learning. At the same time, kids also need to see, for some of the time, how kids move at different speeds and still get the material.
Omg. That’s basically what I do…
Or at least did until I got a girlfriend with two kids. Now it’s just kids all the damn time.
I’ve watched despicable me like 90 fucking times.
For the love of God someone please help me.
Edibles in moderation, my friend. Stealth high helps me and my husband when my mom visits.
Just don’t drive or do anything stupid like that while high.
It aint the honours students who are succumbing to conspiracy videos.
Here are all of the Epstein Files that have either been leaked or released.
https://joshwho.net/EpsteinList/gov.uscourts.nysd.447706.1320.0-combined.pdf (verified court documents)
https://joshwho.net/EpsteinList/black-book-unredacted.pdf%C2%A0(verified Trump is on page 85, or pdf pg. 80
Trump’s name is circled. The circled individuals are the ones involved in the trafficking ring according to the person who originally released the book. These people would be “The List “ Here is the story.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsiKUXrlcac
Here’s the flight logs https://www.documentcloud.org/documents/21165424-epstein-flight-logs-released-in-usa-vs-maxwell/
—————————other Epstein Information
https://cdn.factcheck.org/UploadedFiles/Johnson/_TrumpEpstein/_Calif/_Lawsuit.pdf%C2%A0here%E2%80%99s a court doc of Epstein and Trump raping a 13 yr old together.
Some people think this claim is a hoax. Here is Katies testimony on youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnib-OORRRo
Jeffrey Epstein’s Ex Says He Boasted About Being a Mossad Agent https://share.google/jLMGahKlCzfV1RHZqJeffrey Epstein and Israel both have the same lawyer Alan Dershowitz, Dershowitz says he’s building ‘legal dream team’ to defend Israel in court and on international stage | The Times of Israel https://share.google/Lb9hDOduBWG4Elpid
—————————other Trump information:
Here’s trump admitting to peeping on 14-15 year old girls at around 1:40 on the Howard Stern Radio Show: https://youtu.be/iFaQL_kv_QY
Trump’s promise to his daughter: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/donald-trump-ivanka-trump-dating-promise/_n/_57ee98cbe4b024a52d2ead02%C2%A0%E2%80%9CI have a deal with her. She’s 17 and doing great ― Ivanka. She made me promise, swear to her that I would never date a girl younger than her,” Trump said. “So as she grows older, the field is getting very limited.”
Adding the court affidavit from Katie, as well: https://www.politico.com/f/?id=00000158-267d-dda3-afd8-b67d3bc00000
Never forget Katie Johnson.
Trump’s modeling agency was probably part of Jeffreys pipeline: https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2016/08/donald-trump-model-management-illegal-immigration/
Do your part and spread them around like a meme sharing them and saving them helps too! Please copy and paste this elsewhere!
I think the work of saving and preserving these files en-masse is important, but spamming on random threads isn’t the way.
All it serves to do is detract from the original discussion for those this appeals to, and frustrates everyone else, watering down the very message you’re trying to put out there.
This could be a post on many relevant Lemmy communities and probably do well on the majority of them, thus achieving that mission without polluting Lemmy with spam that adds nothing to the current conversation.
