• Constant Pain@lemmy.world
    10·
    7 days ago

    That’s a copypasta reference of another post from the guy’s perspective.

    From his perspective, she is just a weird coworker who likes to touch his food, and he gets tired of telling her off.

    • themeatbridge@lemmy.world
      244·
      8 days ago

      You can discuss the events of a story, and the relative morality and social etiquette of the characters in it, even if the whole thing is entirely fiction. Functionally, it makes no difference if it really happened or it didn’t. Sometimes that matters, but here is doesn’t. You don’t know these people, you’ll never meet these people, and there’s no real-world effect of discussing this story (except maybe someone learns not to touch somebody else’s food?).

      Fuck it, you could be a bot programmed to complain about people taking shitposts seriously. I could be an AI created to respond to your prompts to try to convince you not to complain about fabricated stories. This entire interaction could be four bots engaged in a learning exercise in a simulated online forum. Or maybe it was all a dream the whole time.

  • Uriel238 [all pronouns]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    27·
    7 days ago

    This sounds like the kind of flirting I’d expect after seeing '80s and '90s teen angst movies. In retrospect screenwriters just don’t understand how humans interact, or rather they just don’t care and go for madcap antics instead.

    I’m way neurodivergent, and was completely unaware of human interaction, so I was looking at Pretty in Pink and St. Elmo’s Fire (etc. etc.) trying to decipher how all that works.

    I became sexually active at 26 after folks from the kink community noticed my nerdy vibe, and they schooled me in some basic human interaction. (Note that I matrix-dodged a barrage of incel-to-fascist pipeline bullets thanks to some amazing strokes of fortune.)

    After the fact, in recollection, I realized then that a lot of women in my young adult life were signalling me and I never knew.

    I also realized my aunt was totally hitting on me when I was sixteen. That’s all sorts of awkward to reconcile.

  • SweetPomegranate@lemmy.world
    21·
    8 days ago

    I’m not sure if the guy was trying to protect his virginity, or if he was genuinely bothered by the damn bitch constantly touching his food. I’d be annoyed too if someone kept sticking their hand in my food every single day.

  • merc@sh.itjust.works
    14·
    8 days ago

    “Touching his food” can run the gamut between:

    Take one of his potato chips and eat it

    to

    Stick my thumb in his soup

    If a friend or family member took one of my potato chips and ate it, I’d probably be fine with it. At worst I’d be a little annoyed. If an acquaintance or cow-orker did that it would be a little more strange, but not the end of the world. But, the other end of the spectrum is much weirder.

    Grabbing a potato chip, if done carefully, will mean not touching anything else. Any dirt or germs on the toucher’s hands aren’t going to get spread around the rest of the food, but touching a liquid or something with sauce on it is different. IMO, touching someone’s pasta is definitely on the germ-spreading end of the scale.

    • TʜᴇʀᴀᴘʏGⒶʀʏ⁽ᵗʰᵉʸ‘ᵗʰᵉᵐ⁾@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
      5·
      8 days ago

      I can’t respond to your other comment bc snooggums is banned from my instance

      It’s one of those things that works in movies because it’s something you can get away with if you’re incredibly attractive. There’s a whole stock images category involving girls licking their fingers, mostly in a seductive style. But, in the real world, it’s something you do with your husband or long-term partner, not a random cow-orker.

      I think this is what people aren’t understanding. Someone who does this repeatedly surely must have learned that it’s okay/works from a history of doing it, so they’re probably very attractive. I’m pretty confident that most normies would react much more playfully/positively than the responses in the comments here if an incredibly attractive person did this to them. If the goal is to swap spit anyway, you’re not gonna be thinking about the germs on their fingers

      • michaelmrose@lemmy.world
        English
        3·
        8 days ago

        Attractiveness is both subjective and situational and people are often terrible at judging their subjective attractiveness to particular others.

        There are also lots of reasons not to want to be persued starting with being in a relationship

        Also peoples attitude towards germs and hygiene varies wildly.

        The greatest sin of this comment is to suppose that because someone does something it makes sense even in their own subjective context. People are both weird and stupid.

  • Troy@lemmy.ca
    142·
    8 days ago

    This is not flirting. It is socially maladjusted behaviour. Just because it has worked before doesn’t mean it is a good idea.

    Pickup artists do all kinds of stupid shit that works that isn’t socially acceptable either.