Whenever I see a comment on social media that I think is wrong, I feel the need to correct it. These arguments can go on for days, even weeks, and if I don’t win the argument, I get overly fixated on it, wondering where I went wrong and so on.
But actually the big thing that helped me was sitting down and assessing why I wanted to correct this stuff. It never gave me any satisfaction, it never lead to anything I liked, and a good deal of it was likely venting trauma from being talked down to all my life. Once I put it together it just kind of stopped happening.
I usually reply once. I don’t argue. I said what I said, bye.
you don’t have a problem with stopping the argument. you have a problem with the desire to always be right. you’re compensating for a lack of recognition in your skills and intelligence in real life.
accept that you will never get that recognition and you will stop needing to be right.
I know this, because I was this.
next time you see something that someone said is wrong, just high five them and move on.
I’m not exactly great at it myself… but my dad used to tell me a story from his job.
There was a guy that made some claims, another desperately trying to correct him and tell him he’s wrong. To no avail, afterwards, he turned to another person that had a doctorate in the very topic they were arguing about. And said “why didn’t you say anything!? You know he is wrong!”
To which the doctor replied “yeah, but it’s not my problem that he’s an idiot”
It’s okay with me if people are wrong. I disagree with everyone on at least one thing, I find, if I talk to them for more than a few minutes.
You could try this–offer your correction, and then never look at the thread again. Disengage. You’ve done all you can do, let it go. Eventually, you WILL get to that point, so get there quickly and on your terms.
It’s okay if people are wrong, and a lot of people are.
If you really can’t control yourself, then you might benefit from therapy.
Honestly, if you mean Facebook then I salute you for having the patience. If I had to correct the moronic comments I see whenever I use that platform I’d explode. It genuinely made me loose faith in democracy as a system. I honestly don’t think half of these people should have a vote.
Speaking of Facebook, I’ve been seeing comments there from people who are seemingly completely unaware or in denial of the crimes Trump has committed. Whenever there’s a post about how he ought to be removed from office and/or arrested, these people go “on what grounds?” “Name one crime he’s committed. I’ll wait”. Like, I don’t get the vive they’re sincerely asking, I get the vibe it’s a rhetorical challenge. They think it’s a gotcha. They legitimately don’t think people have an answer fir what Trump has done that should warrant removal from office
I actually mean instagram and x.
Fair play. Instagram I use for reals and that’s it. Pure dopamine idiocy. Basically addicted. X I avoid - I didn’t even enjoy it as twitter, but now it’s just vile. I think Lemmy is the only platform where I actually read and comment tbh. Not sure if that’s a good thing or not. One thing’s for sure, I should definitely get back into reading books
Bro dont argue on public social media especially fb. They’re idiots. I only stay there for marketplace and like 2 friends.
I wish i could voice my thoughts on fb but I’d get instantly labeled as a terrorist by the Drump regime for daring to go against dear leader and oligarchy.
On public social media they likely think I’m a right wing Drump voter 😄
Dude, whom do you call idiots? Facebook is still a normal platform. Don’t understand what that fuss is about. It still works as it was.
Mmmm bud its been co opted heavily by the alt right and Russian bots a decade ago, maybe more. Its a cesspool.
Zucc: “they just gave all their information to me. Dumbfucks”
Ah, the irony I tried to do was to start arguing online on Lemmy about it, by presenting the opposite opinion.
However I forgot about notification function, and missed all replies.
Facebook sucks a lot for sure.
It happens !
I downvote and hide the thread. I used to argue with flerfs on Twitter years ago. Didn’t take long before I noticed they believe what they want. Trying to educate is a waste of my limited time.
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Write your comment, but ask yourself right before you hit send: “I’m gonna die one day. Is this what I want to spend time on? Is this what I want to be remembered for?” Eventually you’ll ask yourself that before you finish writing and later still you’ll ask yourself that when you think about writing the comment.
That’s not an argument.
Assume they don’t want to and can’t be corrected, because there’s a 99% chance that’s exactly the case.
Correct them once and move on, last say doesn’t mean shit when they’re wrong.
and in case you are wrong, acknowledgement goes a long way. be the example, but don’t expect it from anyone else.
That’s why I switched from Reddit. There were so many people to argue with, I never stopped! Around here, I still need to correct people occasionally, but it’s not constant and usually much more chill.
Don’t bother. Most people don’t care about facts, they just want their existing beliefs to be reinforced. You will not sway them, only waste time. They may even be intentionally posting incorrect information to troll or mislead. Don’t give them the time.
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