I think the weirder thing is how many stereotypes are true. Oftentimes like people actively embrace shitty stereotypes. I don’t get that part of life, but i certainly encounter it a lot. Especially around gender dominated activities. Like I tried to learn knitting one winter and I basically was told to fuck off because it was all women who wanted to gossip about shitty men are and me being a man in that group prevented that… so they hated me.
I find the same thing in any exclusionary activity/group. I am a cyclist and most cyclists are major dicks towards other people who aren’t their type of cyclist. It’s weird. Sort of like the Linux superiority complex you see on lemmy.
There was research which showed that when women make up a third of a group, both men and women tend to think the numbers are even. More than a third = more women than men.
Not just presence either. If women in group settings collectively speak for more than 30% of the time, both men and women feel like women are dominating the conversation.
because women are more valuable than men, biologically speaking.
and only a certain subset of men are valuable. most are not. i bet in that group only 10-20% of men are the ones who ‘lead’ or wonder be desirable to the women in the group. 80% of the men would be relegated to secondary status
I dislike that The Big Bang Theory gives the impression it’s extremely rare for women to be pop culture nerds. I’m a woman who loves marvel movies and Star Wars and Star Trek and hope to one day find a boyfriend who likes those things too
Big Bang Theory is stuck in some '90s ideas of nerds.
Back then, people would joke that guys would never find a girlfriend while playing DnD. Now I have a pair of friends who got married and originally bonded as part of our DnD group, and that seems completely normal.
It is rare. I’ve had dozens of women partners and only one was ever a nerd. the vast majority of women are not nerds and male nerdiness in the general population is frowned upon. almost every woman i have ever met my entire life also looks down on ‘nerdy’ things.
on internet forums, yes, it’s more highly represented. most women nerds i’ve ever known were from internet forums/groups.
“locker room talk”
Most of my friends and I are pretty traditionally “manly” men. The kinds of guys you turn to if you need to build something, fix something, need to cut down a tree, want to drink beer and smoke cigars, shoot guns (not after drinking the beer,) go fishing (beer is ok for that,) etc.
I have basically no clue what’s going on in any of their sex lives. We never really comment on women’s appearances, and when we do it’s kept to just a very quick observation, “man, she’s hot” kind of thing.
Damn near any time some sort of sex talk comes up it’s our female friends stoking the fires.
I’m pretty sure my wife and her friends talk more about sex in an afternoon than I have in my whole lifetime.
Maybe it’s because we very rarely find ourselves in a locker room, most of aren’t exactly the gym or team sports type.
it’s projection.
projection of a undesirable thing onto the other group makes it justified for your group to do it, even though you know it’s wrong.
hence why liars will tell you that everyone is lying all the time and anyone who doesn’t lie is stupid/naive.
(my exes were liars)
It was actually a plot point on Friends once. Ross got upset that Rachel told Phoebe about his princess Leia sex fantasy. Ross and Chandler were surprised women talk to each other about sex.
most sitcom plot points are based in crude ignorant stereotypes that reinforce people’s popular biases and don’t require the audience to ever think, but be coddled by the familiar tropes they have grown up with.
if they challenged those lazy preconceptions people would not enjoy the show. like if you had a show with women were sex horn dogs and men were sensitive relationship seekers, it would not go over well with a general audience, unless it was a whacky comedy.
“all men are the same”
nah girl, you’re shit and attract shit men
no no, you don’t understand. it’s that men lack emotional intelligence and all need therapy.
if they all got more EQ and went to therapy then they’d be able to read my mind and submit themselves to my emotional tantrums. because the only good men are the ones who serve me. they’d also be rich, tall, and handsome.
Men can grill. There’s a lot of fools out there that don’t know how to BBQ proper.
Just watch how many try to “start” a campfire by using gasoline. Which tends to eat all the oxygen so nothing else has a chance.
That the woman’s bathroom is cleaner and men’s bathroom is disgusting
This is both true and false simultaneously depending on the location 🤷♀️
My first job was in the custodian arts. Mostly offices and churches. The women’s bathrooms were always disgusting. Sure men will splash pee on the floor, but I never had to dig used period pads out of the toilet in a mens room.
Having worked in social services, I can tell you that women’s bathrooms are grotesquely worse than men’s. By a degree that is almost incomprehensible to the untrained.
I’ve seen some nasty shit cleaning men’s bathrooms. I’ve seen some incomprehensible shit cleaning women’s bathrooms.
Me working retail, after a bathroom issue was reported in the women’s room: “How did it get on the ceiling?!”
From what I hear, most female slumber parties don’t involve tickle fighting in your underwear.
Are you saying Jordan Capri lied to me during a very formative period of my life???
We were all lied to!
“Men don’t communicate.” There are multiple modes of communication. If you know, you know.
men do communicate.
it’s that most women can’t process it because they don’t do direct communication. everything is indirect.
hence men and women talk past each other. i literally had girlfriends where i’d tell them something… and then they would repeat back to me the opposite of what I said. because they didn’t understand the concept of meaning what you say. to them if i said I liked chicken, it meant I was actually saying I like steak.
and they’d do the opposite. they’d tell me they wanted like a handbag for christmas, so i’d get them a handbag. and they’d be disappointed because what they really wanted was earrings. but if they asked for that directly it would be bad, i was supposed to ‘prove’ my communication skills by somehow knowing what she really wanted without her ever expressing it.
Aren’t all people comments here stereotypes? I’ve spent the last hour searching about the meaning of “trope” because I got jaded of it. A trope about group of men or woman (by what I do understand now) would be, for example, every protagonist would be a woman because they got lock in the girls bathroom.
That last “obviously false” in your questions remarks that, yea, you are talking about stereotypes.
Idk, maybe I’m wrong since I didn’t knew the word and I’m still fresh after a small time of research.
