I really like watch porn videos of women saying very humilating and degrading things about me because I love feeling like I’m a loser, Inadequate and worthless.
But I don’t want tell my future wife or girlfriend that I’m into this because it’s so embarrassing. How do I get rid of this kink?
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If this kind of play makes you truely happy Im sure you can find someone willing to be your dom. A lot of women are way kinkyer than they ever let on.
If you want to kick the fetish then just stop engaging with it. Make it off limits and find other things you like that are more socially accepted.
I’d bet there are plenty of girls out there who can be a great loving partner and also make you feel like a loser when you want it. Instead of hiding your kink and trying to push it down, find a partner who likes you and your kink.
You can’t. Eh, it could be a lot worse. The best you can do is just accept it.
The more common the kink, the more porn of it there is. You’ll be ok. Everyone wants a spanking sometime.
It’s not something you need to get rid of, but if you really want to move past it the best way is to actually explore it psychologically. You say you like humiliation play because you love feeling like you’re worthless. Makes sense, sure, but why? What is it about feeling worthless that feels good?
Is it genuine worry in real life that you can safely explore in a sexual fantasy? Do you feel sometimes inadequate but can’t talk to friends openly about it, so having someone attractive criticise you but still not leave you relieves a fundamental rejection anxiety?
Is it that part of you is arrogant and looks down on some others as losers, but you don’t consciously approve of that behaviour, so the kink lets you ‘play the victim’ and feel better about your elitism?
If you spend a bit of time actually confronting the deeper thoughts behind a kink, it can remove a bit of the forbidden tension, and leave it as something you can still enjoy if you want, or move beyond, or find a more acceptable form that still presses the same buttons. Or just find a girlfriend who’s into it!
I have always felt that I’m a loser and very Inadequate. Because I’m 27 year old and I have never even been on a date and I got made fun of alot for my appearance throughout highschool. So I guess that why watching porn videos of hot women verbally humilating me and degrading is such a turn on for me.
hold up.
you have a humiliation kink and you’re afraid you’re going to be too humiliated to let your partner know?
bruh, that’s a level of simp I’ve never even thought of. you’re like the simp god. lean into that shit and find you someone that will treat you like the piece of trash you know you are, because you deserve it.
Well, it depends. Is it at all appealing when you’re not horny? Or is it only during horny you find it appealing. If the latter, stop watching it. If it’s the former you can’t, it’s part of you and you’re probably going to have to find a way to be okay with it. I’m kind of into it to an extent but I draw the line at things that actually hurt my self-esteem. It could also be it’s only part of it you find appealing.
Edit: It could also just be a fantasy and you’d hate if you actually tried it irl. I think I know how you feel. It’ll be okay regardless.
You really have to feel good in your own body and see yourself as someone who can be healthy about that. I guess you like the thrill of relating to these type of videos, but some day you’ll wish for normalcy. Boredom, even.
