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Complaining about the sunlight hurting my eyes.
The other day, my mom was driving and the sun came out. It had been cloudy all day, so I hadn’t brought my sunglasses. She had two pairs of sunglasses in the car and fished around to get them, saying I could use one.
Unbeknownst to me, I distracted her right when she needed to make a turn. We had to make a quick U-turn and get back on track.
Moments later, we had to stop because the road ahead was blocked. Apparently someone had been speeding and there was a fatal accident. We heard the details of the news later that day.
My mom was moved by how, if we hadn’t missed that first turn, we could’ve been at the intersection where it happened. I mean, my mindset is more, “Maybe the accident wouldn’t have happened?” But there’s only so much we can account for in life. If she sees it as, “Hey, our fuck up turned out to have saved us,” I can support that.
DM’ing my first DnD one-shot. I really didn’t know how it would work out, if it would even happen (people are unreliable sometimes), or if I was putting way too much work into it.
But we all had such a blast and we already have the next two sessions scheduled. And my friendship with my colleagues is blossoming from it and it gives me such a feeling of belonging and being appreciated.
Being autistic and socially awkward, this is a really big step
Brought a union rep from a different shop into a conversation with my boss. My boss doesn’t like me and has been targeting me, as some coworkers have told me. So I brought a stranger to the meeting with me because my own shop Steward sucks.
Incredible decision. Suddenly the ball is rolling in so many directions and actually effecting things. So thankful to the rep and the union.
Yesss I hate when people get a bad taste for unions just because they have a shitty steward. It can make such a huge difference to feel like someone is on your side in those types of situations. While I understand that sometimes as stewards our hands are tied, it costs nothing to empathize with another human and help them feel heard.
Yay unions!! My current job is my first in a union, and I’m not going back. No contract no work!
Need to give a little backstory here…
My ex and I have a kid together. He was born during Covid and I was away at the time, and it ended up that my name never got on his birth certificate. When we split up we never went to court over custody or child support or any of that stuff, we just made a civil agreement between the two of us how we’d co-parent. And it’s been working well so far.
Well not too long ago I decided that I needed to legally codify my status as his biological father so I had the two of us fill out what’s called an Acknowledgement of Paternity, which gets my name on the birth certificate. There were no selfish motives at the time, it was just the right thing to do.
Fast forward to today. My ex has a new gf and they’re getting very close and she’s been engaging in some fuckery where she’s telling my son that he can’t talk about dad (me) in front of his new “mama.” Never mind that fact that I provide the both of them with an insane amount of material support and that he’s with me every weekend. I don’t know what’s going on, but the situation smells to me like she wants to try and push me out of the picture. Well, guess what? I am legally the boy’s biological father, with all the rights and privileges pertaining thereto now. So if push comes to shove I am fully prepared to invoke those rights, drag her ass to court, and we can do all that custody stuff she never wanted to do.
I’m hoping it doesn’t come to that, but I’m glad I secured my legal rights when I did or that would be a lot tougher.
(Also to add I’m not posting this as ragebait nor am I soliciting advice. I know exactly how I’m going to handle this if I need to.)
I am legally the boy’s biological father, with all the rights and privileges pertaining thereto now. So if push comes to shove I am fully prepared to invoke those rights, drag her ass to court, and we can do all that custody stuff she never wanted to do.
Hell yeah you should if it comes to that! I was reading with bated breath through that first paragraph and relief when I saw you filed for paternity acknowledgment. You’re his dad and no one should try to erode that relationship. Hopefully you’ll never have to go to court though!
That’s exactly why I lined up a lawyer for custody when I knew I had to divorce my ex.
I try to be as patient as I can with her because I still care about her. She’s got a lot of mental health struggles and she’s been through hell. Sometimes she takes it out on me in ways she doesn’t intend, and 99% of the time I can just confront her directly and that solves the problem. I already confronted her about this, and I haven’t decided if I believe her story yet but at least she knows where I stand. Legal action is the nuclear option but I’m hoping that this gets resolved well before that.
You’re a good dad for doing so as well. End of the day, that’s still your kid’s mom. I’m glad you’re standing up for your rights without being an out and out asshole about it lol
Wishing you all of the luck and lots of good things ahead on your parenting journey!
Leaving the US at first chance. It wasn’t an easy decision, but the door was closing and I am so glad I did. I wouldn’t have had the opportunity today.
Moved from Kentucky to Northern Minnesota. We had a plan to do so in the future but after November 2024 we moved it up about 7 years. Best decision ever. We figured everything was going to get fucky, and were able to execute the plan… So we did… It was a super hard year and a shit ton of work, but it turned out so much better than we even expected.
Pro tip: if you see some natives hawking rice on the side of the road buy some! Best rice you’ll ever have.
I bought a floor model Mac Mini M4 for $600 CAD while they were retailing for $800 in April.
Now they’re retailing for $1100ish CAD
It was a good deal that became a great deal due to all the hardware fuckery that AI is causing.
Accepted a non-academic job with a permanent contract just before all my colleagues in academia lost their funding.
Quit my old job to work as a consultant.
Lots more money.
Miss the colleagues though… First company really shaped me as a colleague and friend, and taught me how to easily and quickly get close and comfortable with coworkers in a way that benefits everyone, with close bonds and good collaboration. It was a great first job. Miss you guys. 🩵🤍
