Title. Obviously youtube is out. Google results have been unhelpful. I tried Pornhub, but no dice. I wanna learn how to shave my twig and berries nice and smooth, because I’m a considerate partner - but I’m tired of trial and error and nicking myself on the nuts.

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    Hot shower

    Get it warm and loosened up first

    Gillette mach 3

    Shave toward the tip (so, shave down from above, shave up from below, etc)

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    A few tips. No scissors or electric shavers. Pull areas to be tight and flat. Go slow at first. Use a razor you’ve used a couple times so it’s not at it’s sharpest, it’ll still get the job done but be less likely to cause major cuts.

    Also general advice, if your partner doesn’t fully appreciate the results or effort then stop trying. I’ve never gotten criticized about a “full bush” or specifically complemented on a “smooth finish” so I stopped trying. Not worth the hassle if your partner thinks you’re already sexy. More sit-ups or push ups might be more appreciated.

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      Thanks!

      As for my partner’s appreciation - I pretty frequently seek out new partners, so I like to make a good first impression. So even if a current partner doesn’t mind, I want to be able to be ready to make that good first impression whenever the opportunity presents itself.

      And yeah, lol, I actually did a core + push up + OHP workout yesterday. Goal is press BW and dead 2x BW! Mirror check today showed some okay ab and oblique pop despite being more than 5lbs over my goal weight

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        Probably not the norm but I’ve gotten pinched by an electric once. Using a razor I might get some nicks but I often don’t even notice it happened until a few seconds later.

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          I get one or two nicks/pinches per shave on my electric shaver, but for me its worth it because the resulting shave is smoother/softer, I don’t need lubricants or shaving creams, and the chances of getting ingrown hairs is pretty much zero

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    Does your partner want this? Every partner I’ve ever had thought he was doing me a favor by becoming hairless in some way, shaving his chest or manscaping all the way down to the skin and I hate it! Keeping things tidy is one thing, shaving down to the skin is another. So unless your partner has expressed a desire for you to do this, ask them first! If you already know this is something they want from you, well good on you for trying to do it the best way possible

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      I pretty consistently have new partners, so I can’t say. Really my main concern is going from bush to shaved or trimmed quickly and easily without cutting myself.

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      Based on how much I cut myself with a safety razor on the face when I tried using one (for quite a while, actually), I don’t know if this is the path for me.

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    Get on Grindr, I’m sure a gay guy would offer to wax you for free. You do get random offers

    • blarghly@lemmy.worldOP
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      Legit suggestion, but I don’t think I’d take it. I’m terrible about setting boundaries with gay guys because I don’t want them to feel bad that I’m not attracted to them.

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        You don’t have to fancy them for a service, Some are happy to do so. They are not asking for you to bend over yet

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    I use a foil-style electric. No cuts and no irritation. Do NOT use a rotary-style electric. You don’t want a lift and cut system tugging on your short and curlies. If I use a regular 5 blade manual razor, even if I don’t cut myself, I get irritation and itchiness for days after.

    • blarghly@lemmy.worldOP
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      Yeah, my foil style electric is what I have been using, and I constantly nick myself, or else it leaves little tiny blood spots.

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    Get waxed, I’ve been doing it for a couple years now, worth it.

    Hurts a bit when they pull it off, but not nearly as bad as you imagine, and it only hurts for an instant, not like it’s a pain that’s gonna linger around with you.

    Smoother and longer-lasting than you could ever hope to manage with a razor, and no risk of cutting yourself

    Depending on your skin, maybe you could have some issues with ingrown hairs, but I’m pretty sure if you’re prone to that you’re probably gonna have those issues shaving too.

    My only complaint is the price, the place I’ve been going charges about $75 (+tip) for their “basic” service, which is just shaft and sack. I’m personally a really hairy dude and I feel like it would look weird for me to go beyond that and have bald patches on my crotch and ass crack, and I’m certainly not gonna spend the time and money for a full body waxing.

    The full, most premium package to get all of you junk and butt waxed with all the extra goes up to something like $150 (+tip), and there’s a few options in-between so that you have a sense of the price range.

    Which I do think is a pretty fair price for the service, but it’s also certainly not cheap. Personally I kind of justify it because I’ve known people who spend that much or more or haircuts about as often as I get it done, and i shave my head myself with a safety razor, so my haircut expenses are basically 0, so just kind of trading one grooming expense for another.

    I usually go about a month and a half between waxings, first week or two there’s no noticeable hair regrowth, and by the 6th week I usually have about the required ¼ inch or so for waxing. Takes about a half hour for what I get done.

    In some places it can be hard to find places that do it for dudes, and not all employees are trained or willing to do male waxing, so don’t ruin it for the rest of us, wash your ass and junk and don’t be a creep.

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      Def something I’ve considered, but the cost isn’t ideal, and I feel like the pain would be otherworldly…

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        The pain really isn’t that bad

        And at least for me, the worst parts of it are more on my sort of FUPA area, not so much on my dick and balls themselves, so for the service I get, it’s only like 3 patches around the edges that actually hurt. Might suck more if you’re planning to get more than that done, but I can’t really comment on that myself.

        And again. It’s only for an instant with each rip and then it’s over, by the time you’ve flinched it’s already stopped hurting.

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    Never done it. Actually tempted out of curiosity, but just feels like another additional task. Married with kids, so it’s not like I’m out there trying to win the Best Groomed Junk game. I’m curious though, is natural (but clean) junk a deal breaker for some of you? It was never a factor in my dating game, but then I’m old AF.

    • blarghly@lemmy.worldOP
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      Partners I’ve had in the past have been fine with just trimmed, but have been put off by full bush when giving BJs. Unless you have some kind of kink about it, most people don’t find hair in the mouth enjoyable.

      PIV -> bush fine
      Normal BJ -> trimmed fine
      Really going to town on the balls and shaft -> clean shaven preferred

      And personally, I don’t enjoy the sight or feel of hair on my partners’ junk - clean shaved is definitely ideal for me personally. If they’re just trimmed, that’s okay - it makes it a little less sexy for me, but whatever. But if a partner just started never shaving at all, I would bring it up as a polite request, and then possibly stop getting physical with them. So since I have these preferences, I figure it is reasonable for me to put the effort in to match theirs

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    Hair removal cream for most areas. Cheeks, base and pube line. If not looking for a wax looking. Shave the hairy bits with a electric razor and then in the shower smooth off with a razor. Always use a 5 blade razor, I found it nicked less and was quicker. If it’s been a while and a jungle, best bet book a waxer and just get over it. I’m nd and hate anything up close or touchy touchy but it’s like ripping off those really sticky plaster. Small pain and then she’s waxing the next part. I’ve had head to toe. You will be grateful after

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        It’s to warm your skin as is easier to get a closer shave with less effort and you won’t be trying to shave the same area multiple times which irritates the skin and increases the chance of cutting it. Also shrink factor is eliminated allowing you to stretch a smoother canvas to work with.