• masterspace@lemmy.ca
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    Neither will harm or effect your baby in any measurable way.

    What will effect them measurably negatively is having obsessive parents who min/max every decision rather than being happy and enjoying their child.

    Happiness comes from acceptance, not obsession.

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        I think people are downvoting you because “effect” is in there twice.

        The first one is right.

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            You’re not wrong.

            I wish I could see the edit timestamps on Lemmy, because I’m sure that comment was different.

            The stupid thing is, I’d originally written the comment with quotes to point it out, then chopped it back because I realised that I was massively overexplaining it. Those quotes would have been handy now!

            I’ll strike my comment out so it’s not misleading, but I’ll leave it up so this still makes sense.

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    It doesn’t matter. A baby doesn’t understand what you read to it. It only hears you voice and regocnizes it once they’re born. But it’llhear your voice in the belly regardless. Every time you say anyyhing, the baby hears your voice. Reading a book to a belly is mostly for the parents-to-be

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    1. The baby doesn’t understand English (although they can recognise the rhythm and sounds of language).

    2. The mother understands English

    3. The baby experiences the same emotions as the mother.

    In conclusion, read something that will make the mother relaxed and happy. If that happens to be The Cat In The Hat, then great. I read Don Quixote when my wife was pregnant with our first, our second got Moomin and Hairy Maclary (by virtue of being there when I read to the first).

    The most important thing is to keep reading to them, every day, after they’re born too. Buy tons of children’s books (for your own sanity), do the voices and have fun with them.

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    I remember my mother telling me that if I don’t get staright A’s, she was gonna regret it, and my dad told me: “Don’t make me regret fucking your mom last night”. I spend the next 9 months planning for school, and the next 18 years trying so hard to be top of my class. Never had any fun. Wtf even is this “video game” y’all talking about. -10/10 would not recommend.

    Please don’t berate your fetus into depression, it’s not worth it. Instead, play baby fetus shark.

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      baby is inundated with ‘back in my day’, [redacted] ruined everything, complaints about life sucking ass, etc

      9 months pass

      baby pops out

      immediately uses all their strength to jump to the nearest window ledge and yeet

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    Just talk to the baby and play them calm music. The type may matter but what is most important is you interact in some way.

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    I read to my child every night while they were in the womb and when they came out my reading voice was like drugs it would knock them out so quickly if they were sleepy!

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    Fwiw, my mom had a similar debate and decided classical music instead. Came from some company called baby beethoven. So I’m biased but I think music is probably best. Words won’t really be understood anyway just tones. No angry sounds around baby.