• Karl@programming.dev
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    10 days ago

    I don’t mean to offend you, but do you still feel non-sexual attraction towards a particular or both genders?

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      10 days ago

      There’s a spectrum of Ace. I got one am a heteroromantic ace, and I’m a dude. So I am attracted to women romantically, but don’t want to sleep with them.

      It’s a very frustrating combination that makes dating difficult.

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        10 days ago

        So very true. People always think there’s something wrong with you.

        If you dont mind me asking, is it all sex or specific kinds?

        Ive found this is also me to a degree. Enjoy performing things for the partner, but anything done to me does nothing including PiV.

        Difficult to find discourse involving this so Apologies if this is prying lmao

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          10 days ago

          Cuddling and massages are pretty much where it ends with me. I was in a relationship for a while, but it didn’t work out timing-wiss with careers and locations. We still keep in touch and hang out a few times a year though.

          Nice thing about an Ace breakup is there’s less sexual baggage attached to becoming friends again.

    • Chloé 🥕@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      10 days ago

      personally, it’s kinda hard to say? i have felt romantic attraction exactly once in my life, so i know i’m not fully aromantic, but also it’s only happened once so i’m probably on the aro spectrum somewhere

      but yes, there are many people who are asexual but who still feel romantic attraction to others

      (and of course, not all attraction is sexual or romantic, there is also aesthetic attraction for example (literally just when you find people pretty), which i do feel, my meme was pretty reductive all things considered, but then again it’s just a meme)

      • PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        10 days ago

        So I know with a rather high degree of certainty I’m ace, but I continue to have trouble untangling aromanticism from my aversion to people and mild paranoia.