I am not joking when I say that I thinked for hours about how do people find each other in 2025.
Currently, the world is in very weird state. People online are either using social video platforms or they are reading news or lurking in online forums in it’s different shapes and forms.
Most chat platforms that I know had shut down and most alt social platforms are almost dead. Even Hackernews had started to see a lower amount of comments compared to previous years.
I want a serious answer, how should I find people online to talk to about anything really other than politics?
I met someone on Reddit about 5 years ago whilst talking about making a smart mirror for fun. Ended up not making the mirror but did end up in a relationship from it. Was random, I had never exchanged dm’s with anyone before that.
Look into your communities events pages or whatever it’ll be called and look for things that might be your interest adjacent. Go to community centers and look at their boards. Find a thing you’re vaguely interested in ago go. Then meet people there who can either tell you about other things that you might be interested in or continue what you’re doing. Churches often have good community boards too, depends on the church. Some are far less evangelical than others, your results may vary.
Try bellawhiskey.ca/trollegle. It’s a silly little chat site. Will not necessarily be alive when you join, but there are a few regular visitors. I would recommend to avoid speaking to _ though.
It’s pleasantly surprising to see it getting mentioned it at all. Loved the servers when they were Omegle chatoorms, and it’s a bit sad to see it sort of die out with the death of Omegle. But yeah, the people there are generally nice.
Also, since I mentioned Omegle: I do not recommend any Omegle clones, as they often have an account system in place, which sort of ruins the whole anonymity stuff and also leaves to some stigma to those who do not want to use the account system. Not to mention that these sites generally attracts horny creeps, and finding a good chat partner is thusly hard.
Seriously though the only places I’ve seen any kind of thriving community are invite-only private torrent tracker sites.
I have an IRL friend who always goes like "oh, sorry, its invite-only torrent (￣y▽,￣)╭ "
That’s lame, you’re only supposed to be inviting people you really know IRL anyway… Weak excuse from your friend, if you’re willing to seed.
Whatever you do, steer clear of meetup.com - all of their social activities on there now are scientologists thinly veiling their seminars as get-togethers.
How does that even work lol
“What do you guys wanna do? Actually I know, let’s check out this building” “no you should really check out this building” “get in the fucking building”
“Guys I wanna leave”
“Okay but $50 and we will call your phone for eternity”
Here’s an example one: https://www.meetup.com/101-dating-relationships/events/307612236/
I posted on lemmy if anyone wanted to play games with me. Someone answered and we talk everyday since then, on most days we spend hours on video calls. Just try posting on whatever you use, you might find people you like.
Check out https://slowly.app/ - its a penpall service that simulates snail mail which makes for great connections! You can get a random pall or choose one explicitly and the community there is really wholesome.
I don’t have an answer about online methods… I went through the phase of how to meet people as well, and eventually decided to join / try out some group activities. I did some rookie dragon boating, table tennis, stand up paddle, and eventually met my forever spouse as she taught me scuba diving. PS: other than the scuba diving, those were all free activities for beginners. Good luck
Love yourself and be content in being alone, get to know the real you. When you do that, you will find the right people. It will be instinctual.
No offense, but “be content in being alone” is not a good answer to “how do I meet new people for a chill time”
None taken. I’m advocating for introspection, as in, why did they come here and ask the question in the first place? Why not just seek out a like-minded community? So, how can one possibly get directions from another when they don’t know where they want to go? At that point, any direction is valid.
Fair point.
Maybe I feel like this because I’ve been in the same situation before, where it felt like I had exhausted all social options in my comfort zone. Asking random strangers is nice sometimes, because it gives you perspective and feedback from people who are out of your own bubble. Or, at least, a way to vent your frustration without risking to alienate your friends.
A couple years ago I had my discord nametag as my Mario Kart Wii nickname, zheg#someNumbers, random people added me and then talked with them while playing. Those were good ol’ days.
I hear Lemmy is pretty good as a sort of forum, maybe you’ve heard of it?
But more seriously, I’ve found that social media platforms (even the fediverse ones) tend to limit connections to surface-level. I personally wouldn’t rely on them to find people to talk to. But if you’re looking for communities who share similar interests, it’s very good at that. If you’re looking for individuals, the next best thing is sliding into someone’s DMs to have a more focused one-on-one conversation. I’d recommend against doing that without some other interaction first (it looks scammy).
In case you want to chat, my DMs are open.
VRChat is an option. Takes effort to make your way to the cool people tho.
What things are you interested in? Video games, ttrpgs, anime, cinema, woodworking, sports, fast cars, sneakers, programming, yoga, wines, bdsm, books, drawing, dogs, veganism, religion, music, hiking?
Whatever the answer is, find a community for it or adjacent to it. On Lemmy, Reddit, Discord, Matrix, or some obscure forum.
And then, the last step, is engage with that community.
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What is it that you want to talk about? There’s plenty about programming, math, and stuff like that. Maybe other stuff too, but that’s the stuff I’m into. Hacker News is definitely overrated and always has been though.
