• TehBamski@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      4·
      16 days ago

      Yeah I know not to just come out asking them these three questions. I just had the thought of what kind of questions you could ask to quickly and greatly understand the kind of person in front of you.

      • BeefPiano@lemmy.worldEnglish
        10·
        16 days ago

        Actions speak louder than words. How about three questions to ask yourself?

        1. Do I feel better when I have been with them?
        2. Do they respect me?
        3. Do I respect them?
  • FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world
    163·
    17 days ago

    My dad, when I was a kid, used to open the door quickly, look down at my visiting friend and say “Who the hell are you?”

    Then he’d shut the door abruptly, wait 3-4 seconds, then open it, laugh, and welcome them in.

    If you can do that and they don’t get offended, they’re friend material.

    • RadicalEagle@lemmy.world
      131·
      17 days ago

      Wide implementation of this technique would certainly explain why anxious/nervous people would have fewer friends.

    • corsicanguppy@lemmy.caEnglish
      2·
      16 days ago

      My dad, when I was a kid, used to open the door quickly, look down at my visiting friend and say “Who the hell are you?”

      Sad story time.

      A friend of mine was visiting one of our mutual friends nearby in the big city while I was in the far, far outskirts. He was such a positive influence that I agreed to come visit at the same time and catch up, as he was always a great time. This excellent friend always brought a gallon of stories, his usual infectious manner, and this time he brought a surprise new girlfriend.

      I did the “who the hell are you” and she got put off. It went reeeally poorly. They left for home the next day, ahead of schedule, back to America. He shut me out. Over the years he kinda shut everyone else there out, too, as far as I know, as he focused on the birth of two kids in succession and then his wife’s affliction with an aggressive debilitating disease; it may have been ALS. He shut a lot of ancillary things and people out, and I get that of course, but I am disappointed that my last interaction was a bombed joke.

      It’s been 18 years. I finally booted him from my social media about 7-8 years ago.

  • dadjokesfordays@lemmy.caEnglish
    8·
    16 days ago

    What brings you happiness or joy in life?

    What do you do for fun?

    What’s one thing you’d 100% recommend to someone brand new to the world?

    • TehBamski@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      4·
      17 days ago

      I’d say Hard Rock or Llanite.

      Octopus rolls at a sushi bar. I wasn’t a fan of it. It’s too chewy for me.

      I’m a well rounded nerd IMO. I’m into video games of all kinds, movies, TV shows and lore from Warhammer 40k.

      How about yourself?

  • NONE@lemmy.world
    7·
    17 days ago
    1. Do you like Anime?
    2. Do you like Attack on Titan/Death Note?
    3. What do you think about Eren/Light?
  • MTK@lemmy.world
    71·
    16 days ago
    • Is modern medicine a scam?
    • Is the current political world trend good or bad?
    • Do you respect transgender people?

    Reasoning:

    • Are they conspiracy theorists
    • Are they pro oppression and racism
    • Are they tolerable of people who are seen as extremely outside of the standard norms and recognize that they don’t pose a threat to them personally
  • neukenindekeuken@sh.itjust.works
    5·
    16 days ago

    Just be interested and ask them questions about their life and hobbies and see if they do the same.

    It’s a starting place. The rest depends on building trust and respect and common interests.

    • Jarix@lemmy.world
      1·
      16 days ago

      Oof. Guys be interested in people i don’t know anything about… In this day and age?

      Fuuuuuuuxk im cooked

    • TehBamski@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      2·
      16 days ago

      I like so many kinds of music that it would take me 10 or so minutes just to craft a list for you. But to give perspective, I’m into Classical music, Speed Metal, Indie Pop, House music, Electric Swing, Ambient, some Hip Hop, Phonk, Progressive Metal, etc.

      Not sure how to answer this one. So I’ll take it as an ‘ultimate day with the guys’ list… Keanu Reeves, Robin Williams, Samuel L. Jackson, Jon Stewart, and Mike Rowe.

      Yeah, I can’t even remember the names of the gals I would for the first two. As for kill, and get away with it… Well, he’s dead, but I would bring him back again just so I could kill him for us all. Ronald Reagan.