I’ll start.
We had great chemistry but different goals. She was religious and looking to marry and thought she could change me, a non-religious person who intends to remain unmarried and childless. I was up front about the lack of religion and the lack of desire for marriage. She was not up front about her intent to change me.
After two months of regular flings she told me we couldn’t see each other anymore, because she wanted someone to go to church with, it was my fault she was living a sinful life (totally), and she was cheating on me with another dude was a Christian.
haha, what I think I deserve is a kick in the teeth for wasting so much of my ex-wifes time. She is a wonderful person, and I still feel terrible about it (despite the fact I never got a cookie). Especially because, looking at any climate news gives me pure existential dread at the idea of bringing a life into this world that will have to live through the collapse of our environment and way of life. You have to have hope for the future, that things will get better, to have kids, and well… it’s been really hard to hold on to hope. But, at least, with a different partner, we could at least adopt, which is also something the ex-wife wouldn’t consider. I may not be able to fathom a better future enough to have children of my own, but god if I’m in the right financial space, with a partner and house and my world traveling out of my system… so many great kids out there just need a safe, loving home.