I’m beginning to accept that I may never be in a relationship again. There are life expectations I have for myself, some admittedly selfish, but really, the idea of having to deal with another grownup who is as obstinate as I am has left me disillusioned about relationships. But I want to have kids. I want to be a father. For women, its fairy easy, go to a sperm bank, pick your choice, get the procedure done and you are on your way. What is the process for dudes? I believe its going to involve a surrogate, but where does one get a donor egg and what not? I am not looking to have a relationship with an egg donor or the surrogate, just me and the kids.
I have a friend who took that road. He adopted a 13 year old from a bad situation. Said kid is now a college graduate. It seems like that is a rewarding path without as many moving parts.
As a father of two though I can tell you I have repeatedly said to my wife “I have no idea how single parents can do this.”. They do it because they don’t have a choice mostly, but you absolutely do. Make sure you’ve prepared yourself as much as possible and maybe try some extended solo kid time (2+ or better 3+ days) if you have friends with younger kids. It’s not complicated, but it’s not easy by any means.