Hard emphasis on “Depends on the person.” I have a friend in their early 40s who currently can’t meet anything on this list due to financial hardships and unstable living conditions.
I also have two elderly friends who are unhoused due to all the shelters being booked as a result of the heat.
If my landlord dies (she’s in her 70s and not doing well) I have absolutely no idea what I’m going to do. I have an absurdly low rent for the area I’m in (1,400/month +utilities for a shit garage “apartment” is considered cheap here…) and if I have to move it will be out of the state and I have to leave my job… Being an uneducated piece of shit my job prospects, especially in this economy, are pretty much nil.
how? I know after 40 I just resigned myself I will not be something else when I would grew up (mechanic, doctor, lawyer, whatever) and that I’ll be a software developer for the rest of my life :-/
It’s mostly acceptance that you are already grown up, and a career change involves financially weighing the benefits of the new career vs the lost income to train for it. Add to it the fact that the working runway gets shorter and shorter which reduces the financial payoff, and you’re not changing careers after your 40s unless it’s for love/enjoyment.
I think we were sold a lot of Hollywood bullshit about living for your job and working all evening or dream jobs that involved taking our laptops to Starbucks to plan parties for the rich and famous. But at the end of the day, a job is a job - nobody would pay you to do it if it was that fun. And so my choice is to make as much as I can to allow me to enjoy my leisure time, which means staying in my current career where I have already climbed the ladder.
Luck, basically. I landed a career that I actually enjoy, it pays decently, and I’m given a lot of freedom and flexibility. I tried having a “normal job”, but in my mid 30s I concluded that normal jobs are for normal people, so I reached out to some former coworkers and got back into offshore seismic survey. I have since landed a supporting role where most of it is done from home.
Depends on the person, but in my case:
Hard emphasis on “Depends on the person.” I have a friend in their early 40s who currently can’t meet anything on this list due to financial hardships and unstable living conditions.
I also have two elderly friends who are unhoused due to all the shelters being booked as a result of the heat.
Fuck Amerikkka by the way.
I can +1 this. I’m that guy. Especially #1,2 &4…
If my landlord dies (she’s in her 70s and not doing well) I have absolutely no idea what I’m going to do. I have an absurdly low rent for the area I’m in (1,400/month +utilities for a shit garage “apartment” is considered cheap here…) and if I have to move it will be out of the state and I have to leave my job… Being an uneducated piece of shit my job prospects, especially in this economy, are pretty much nil.
how? I know after 40 I just resigned myself I will not be something else when I would grew up (mechanic, doctor, lawyer, whatever) and that I’ll be a software developer for the rest of my life :-/
It’s mostly acceptance that you are already grown up, and a career change involves financially weighing the benefits of the new career vs the lost income to train for it. Add to it the fact that the working runway gets shorter and shorter which reduces the financial payoff, and you’re not changing careers after your 40s unless it’s for love/enjoyment.
I think we were sold a lot of Hollywood bullshit about living for your job and working all evening or dream jobs that involved taking our laptops to Starbucks to plan parties for the rich and famous. But at the end of the day, a job is a job - nobody would pay you to do it if it was that fun. And so my choice is to make as much as I can to allow me to enjoy my leisure time, which means staying in my current career where I have already climbed the ladder.
Luck, basically. I landed a career that I actually enjoy, it pays decently, and I’m given a lot of freedom and flexibility. I tried having a “normal job”, but in my mid 30s I concluded that normal jobs are for normal people, so I reached out to some former coworkers and got back into offshore seismic survey. I have since landed a supporting role where most of it is done from home.
I still enjoy being a software developer, I also WFH since COVID which is incredible