• Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    “Don’t care what other people think about you”

    Sounds like permission to be an asshole.

    I understand what it’s trying to say, but assholes don’t mind borrowing the mantra.

    • KombatWombat@lemmy.world
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      5 days ago

      I read a book a while back called “The Courage to be Disliked”. That title could be used for some manosphere nonsense but it was instead an overall positive book about determining your self-worth based on your own honest evaluation of yourself, with the goal of improving things that you otherwise make excuses for. It was helpful to me as someone who’s been a people pleaser with low confidence. Hearing that mantra reminds me of it. I think it’s certainly not universally applicable, but it can be good advice for the right person.