I’m sorry you’re going through this. I would say take it, just to be sure. Two weeks of hormonal disruption is a lot better then 864-960 weeks of hormonal/everything else disruption. There won’t be any damage caused by taking it multiple times; however, there is evidence that consistently taking hormonal birth control does change the structure of the brain. Whether those are detrimental or not, I don’t know. I suggest gutting an IUD so you don’t have to worry as much about these things anymore.

*Also make sure that dummy is using a condom. :<

The Effects of Hormonal Contraceptives on the Brain: A Systematic Review of Neuroimaging Studies

Yep, definitely a good time to take plan B. Also, the responsibility to use protection is on both partners. Being as he was sober he was in a better position to manage this and made an active choice not to. You bear the burden of what happens and dealing with it, but he gets to have fun and run away. Very uncool.

I would consider how well you could really consent and if you want people who don’t care about that to be involved in your life. You, along with everyone else, deserve someone who will not take advantage of the situation to get off at your expense. Also, he should really foot at least half the bill for the plan B, without him it would not be needed and if it becomes a larger and more expensive problem it would be something he was responsible for there too. Any self respecting person should pay for their share.

As long as you haven’t taken any emergency contraception in the last few weeks i think, you should be fine. A pharmasist should be able to give you advice on this. Yes there’s a lot of hormones, but it shouldn’t have any permanent effects. Seeing as the alternative would be very disrupting for you, I would suggest taking the pill to be sure. Good luck!

Better safe than sorry. Take plan B. I can’t speak on the side effects, but I at least didn’t observe any when my SO took them.

Also, get tested for STD’s.

in the weeks after taking it

Compared to how long 18 years takes…

No conflict. Take plan B. Pull-out is a pregnancy magnet. Like not even remotely viable.

Play safer next time. You are far too valuable for an STD or unwanted pregnancy.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

First off, yes, take the pill immediately. The side effects are no worse than having a period and they are not compounding. It’s not ideal to use it as your first line of defense and therefore very often, but you don’t need to worry about taking it a third time (or fourth or fifth time).

Second, get yourself a hard “no sex with a new person while drunk”policy. If you find you can’t stick to that when already drunk, then yes drinking less is necessary. You can’t really properly consent when you’re not sober.

If you’re having sex that you don’t feel good about having, it might be wise to step away from the social situation that has been leading to that happening. Do you have or can you find a social group that does things that don’t involve drinking with strangers? Maybe a hobby or hiking group?

If you are drinking too much in situations where not everyone is drinking, it might be a touch of social anxiety that you are trying to self medicate away. Cognitive behavioral therapy is the best proven method for managing this. It’s not like regular talk therapy, it’s very goal oriented with practical steps to take every day and not much (if any) talking about everything bad that’s ever happened. If you can’t afford to see a therapist there are excellent self guided resources and workbooks available.

I don’t know you or your situation, only what you stated above. I’m sure there is a lot more going on than you’d care to share with anonymous strangers. But looking into both why you are drinking and what is leading to regrettable sex will be your best bet.

Go get that pill, lady.

I pop pills all the time

Plan B’s It’s probably safe as long as you don’t make it a habit

Even then, the worst I got was reversible liver damage

I’d say go for it

Also, a less reckless piece of advice:

Is it just a matter of drinking less or is there something more underlying that I need to process?

This is the type of question, that, if you have to ask…

You probably already know the answer.

See if you can get an appointment. Their waiting lists can be months long.

I agree with all the other comments: pulling out is not a birth control method, and you have a high risk of pregnancy in this situation if you don’t take an emergency contraceptive.

I find myself getting into these situations. What should I be doing differently?

Carry condoms. Insist on their use the entire time a penis is in contact with your vulva. Most men, even irresponsible ones will pick sex with a condom over no sex, and someone refusing condom use when you have one available is a strong red flag.

I won’t pretend to know what lifestyle choices are right for you, but condoms have a very good track record for preventing STIs and pregnancy.

I used the pullout method for a decade without issue, but that’s just an anecdote. I understand I’m one of the lucky ones. I was a dumb kid, and you really shouldn’t count on being one of the lucky ones that only has a ‘pregnancy scare’ and nothing more.

To your question, if you think you might have gotten cum in and don’t want a kid, get plan b, it’s not worth the risk imo. Kids are a lot of work, and depending on your risk factors, having one can really mess up your body.