Do you consider ghosting people a reasonable way to deal with today’s overwhelming and constant information and notification overload? Or do you find it offensive and unfriendly?
Would you equate it to a person ignoring you irl or is ignoring a text different?
For this post let’s assume the people involved are or were in the past friends, and ghosting is leaving someone on “read” for more than 2 days.
Assuming they’re simply friends;
2 days…not a big deal. You’re friends not partners. They have their own priorities and probably was in the middle of something when they read it and forgot. Bit crappy if they do it often, but thats how some people are.
2 weeks…if you texted them a few times, and know they’re alive via other means, than yeah something happended that lead to the ignore you. Could be something in their personal life changed, or its you.
2 months…try to connect via mutual friends, attempt to learn why they’re ghosting you
2 years…they’re not your friend anymore, leave them alone.
(Also turn off read receipts, that shit is toxic)
I am majorly on single messaging app and rarely visit others and I had this close irl friend who ghosted me for an year and came back very recently.
I was so confused why they would just leave me on read for over an year. Yes, we had our career paths shift away from eachother but still felt crazy to me. They did text me on other sites though in this one year period, where I’m inactive. I kinda felt lonely and eventually made sure I’m active on other popular apps as well so I don’t get left out. We had a little chat recently but yeah not like we used to.
(Oh I just realised I left out one very popular messaging app too. I need ro work on that and actively add people there so I’m available when they think of me. Putting them away saying “hey I dont use that app” would only discourage them from connecting me)