You’re not supposed to have a gut wrenching feeling 24/7 when in a relationship.
A relationship is a friend you do extra things with.
Yep, a good relationship should just be your favourite person to spend time with that you also find sexually attractive (and vice versa).
I have an anxious attachment style. My brain says no, fuck my feelings regardless. :(
I dunno how I feel about this summing up. Like, yeah, but also so much more. For one they mostly remove gut wrenching feeling xD
If your relationships involve a “gut wrenching feeling 24/7” you might have other problems
People just seem to use me and I have trust issues
Op had a really bad relationship
Never recovered at least thus far anyway
at least thus far
You can do it!
Or don’t. Whatever life you want to live is fine. I’m not here to kink shame.
To be honest, it’s really hard to find somebody who is actually self-aware and empathetic. I mean, people talk the talk, but it seems like they’re not affected by things. I really do enjoy solitude and I’m not a lonely person really. Like, I would like to experience a full human life, but that’s not going to happen in this late stage techno feudal imperialism. What I’m saying is, the criteria for nonsense and bullshit is slowly becoming less tolerant on my end. Like, I would want somebody attractive, but I would choose the uglier person if they had a brain. I’m just keeping it real. Like in this world of billionaire nonsense where we’re bounced around like ping pong balls living inside of containers of bullshit are you able to see what actual human animal existence is really .can you put the modern world on pause and be a human being? Our lives are meaningless bullshit and people that infuriate me the most are those that are optimistic. Yet, if you got to know me, you would realize that I’m incredibly optimistic. But like all things are affected by their environment. For I am a product of my environment. Because you know, there is no war but the class war.
Not in a relationship, feeling is there anyway.
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Ok, to be clear I’m attempting to state the absence of a romantic relationship.
There are still people who have expectations that I need to fulfill including myself. Life is bad enough the way it is and by no choice of my own I regularly have to think about the person I have romantic feelings for. (Though that feeling is not inherently negative)
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A wild Fenriz meme
Dated a string of people who didn’t deserve my trust, so I know that gut-wrenching feeling all too well. Life is more peaceful without it.
They always talk about wading through a bunch of weeds or whatever but hey, I get it, no one has that kind of time anymore to wade through a bunch of assholes to find the fhe one decent person anymore. Life gets short. It can become the kind of noise and drama you just don’t want to mar up your life with.
Out of the plethora of coffee dates from the online apps I’d say there were approx 90% of the people on there that really shouldn’t be dating others and should be in some sort of counselling or just straight up scammers. Several hadn’t been in any relationship that lasted more than 6 months for a good reason.
Even in the last 10% maybe there was no chemistry but I did make some friends. One I’m still good friends with even today since Covid times.
It took about 3 yrs to find someone worth dating with chemistry. Like seriously it’s like friggin career training these days.
yo Fenriz my man, wake up, you’re on Lemmy !
Happily single is how I describe it. Still got my kids and they are grown. No one has to put up with me and I don’t have to take shit from anyone in my personal life.
We’ve lost the plot if going outside is edgy
You can go outside while being in a relationship
The edgy part is posting this instead of not caring
My wife would just complain when we went camping but would also complain when i went alone for too many days
Sounds like she was the problem not the camping
Also when you are in nature people just keep talking so you never actually get the full experience
Again, sounds like a her problem
You can be in a relationship and go sit in the woods alone. It’s not a big deal
I wish I could hang out there with Fenriz
Go to kolbotn, he’s easy to find
