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      Honestly I’ve unironically missed the entirety of the image at first, I went directly to the text. And probably a lot of internet-savvy people would, this kind of image is useless decoration 90% of the time and people are trained to not look at it. Same concept as in that research where they asked people to find the current population number on a webpage and they had a very hard time, despite the value being in big red digits or something equally distinctive.

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    Good advice from 1901. Especially the bit about not marrying women older, taller, or wealthier than you. Especially all 3. Even if she’s like 1 day older, 1 inch taller, or $1 wealthier than you. You gotta man up and not tie that knot!

    /S

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      They will not say “what does ring mean?” They’ll look you in the eye and shout “I don’t understand your dated cultural references old man!!”

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    If both parties are 18 and above, it is none of our business. Many men are into cougars and many women like sugar daddies. Whatever floats their boat.

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      Legally, yes. You can’t and shouldn’t prevent them from dating.

      But, it’s still creepy, it’s usually still predatory, and there can be a huge power imbalance. Basically, the main thing is whether either person can easily leave at any time - often the younger one can’t.

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        I don’t know man. If at 50 I ran into a 20 something that was into dating me, I’d feel more like prey than a predator. But, who am I kidding? If the roles were reversed and I was a 20 something encountering a 50+ cougar, I’d still feel like prey. It’s definitely all about power dynamics, but I don’t think making assumptions about adult people’s situations based on age alone is appropriate or helpful.

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      Legally yes. Socially dating someone in the same life stage as you is the line. The half your age plus 7 rule roughly aligns to that.

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    And if you’re 18, you can only date someone who is exactly 18. Can’t go any lower or any higher.

    Idk who told this to me, but what a weird contradiction. I guess it sorta makes sense.

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      Nope. If your age minimum for a partner y is determined by your age x with the function:

      y = 1/2 x + 7

      then the point where y = x is at y - 7 = 1/2 x. Setting y to x leads us to x - 7 = x / 2, which happens at x = 14.

      At x = 18, y = 18/2 + 7 = 9 + 7 = 16.

      Relatedly, if we invert the function, y - 7 = 1/2 x, thus 2y - 14 = x, which gives us the theoretical maximum for a possible partner. If a possible partner is older than that, you’d be understood to call them a cougar, or whatever the male equivalent is.

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        My favorite feature of the x/2+7 rule is that it implies you shouldn’t be dating below the age of 14. Run any number lower than 14 through it to see what I mean. You can’t reasonably say a 6 year old should only date people older than 10 and also younger than -2.

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          Don’t you hate it when your 6 year old starts dating those people from the negative mirrorworld? No child of mine I say!

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          And a newborn should be dating nobody younger than seven, while also dating nobody older than yet to be born in 14 years 😛

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    With how stressful things have been lately? I might just look like that in just under a decade…

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      maybe 1987 was a weak batch or something, and they’re aging prematurely… i don’t have any data to support that…

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        You might be onto something, I’m from around that time period, balding at 20, grey hairs in my beard for the last 3 years…

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          we may have accidentally released some weird chemicals or something that year… that was when all the Star Wars SDI stuff was happening, it’s hard to say what we were up to… i’m sorry dude… blame Reagan…