You say this like those same people won’t leave it on stun

I brought those speakers and my discman to school in my backpack in high school to bump music during lunch

CAT in the wall, ehhh??

you can’t be attached to the child until they’re old enough to display personality, which comes way later than the toddler stage; I ha just can’t see myself having any attachment before their personality develops

If that’s how you feel, then that’s how you feel. I’m gonna hazard a guess that the vast majority of people, especially pregnant/miscarriage/parents do not feel this way.