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  • In my case, I have found through therapy that it’s about lack of confidence in myself to protect myself and heal from the pain of a failed relationship.

    Once I started telling myself I’m stronger than I think I am, and that love is a risk worth taking, I’m a lot more confident putting myself out there.



  • Call me crazy, but I think some of the biggest fucking bastards in human history simply needed someone to listen to them and help them learn how to self-regulate their emotions as children.

    They’re all so consistently bitter and unhappy narcissists, and they drive away their loved ones because they have no idea how to listen and introspect. They also always try to lure others in with money because that’s what the only things they personally care about.

    When someone criticizes my behavior, I legitimate think about it and I ask them what I could do differently that would make them happier to be around me, and I take that shit seriously even if it hurts to hear.

    Sometimes it’s completely bogus, but if it matters to them, it matters to me, and that’s all that matters.






  • quetzaldilla@lemmy.worldtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldListen and
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    7 months ago

    To clarify, my comment specifically is about superficial movie reviews, critiques, & recommendations.

    Criticism within the context of a movie discussion, presuming everyone involved actually engaged with the movie, is part of healthy dialogue & idea exchange.

    I’ve had my point of view changed plenty within such discussions, and brain dead people do not usually bother to participate in such forums so it’s a win-win.



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    7 months ago

    Movies are made to tell stories that the directors and the producers feel inspired to tell. And unless they are a Marvel or DC movie, they aren’t always meant to appeal to every audience member, and it’s childish to think that movies should always cater to your every whim-- especially when people are so goddamn quick to judge things others worked really hard on so goddamn harshly.

    And before the “but mah money, tho!” shit-- that’s fucking capitalism, and not unique to movies.

    Not every movie is going to be to your taste, and that’s cool. What’s not cool is shitting on a movie just because you didn’t like it or it didn’t make sense to you.

    Reviews are meant to help you choose which movies you want to bother watching. Using the terms in the green column is helpful in giving the reader a sense of what to expect from a movie while avoiding a negative personal impression.

    The red column is very reflective of modern online critiques:

    Harsh. Impulsive. Thoughtless. Black & white.

    Often made without fully engaging with whatever is being critiqued:

    “I haven’t watched the movie, but based on the trailer I bet it’s trash.”

    “I hate Darren Aronofsky movies because they don’t explain what is happening and they’re stupid.”

    “I heard this movie was great, but I watched it and it sucked. Therefore, everyone else is wrong.”