I agree with OP, and I think you may as well but are stating it differently. Hardships and difficulty so indeed provide the opportunities to better oneself, but that shouldn’t come from contrived abuse like bullying or hazing. Those are instances of someone using their previous difficulty as an excuse to make it harder for someone else which I don’t believe is morally correct.

What about the majority that are not doing that?

Why would you say something like that? It’s like you are wanting to hurt us.

Do people hate him specifically because he’s autistic? Or is he just a prick who happens to be on the spectrum? I’ve not seen the former being espoused.