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Cake day: June 13th, 2025

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  • Please don’t ever believe this. It’s just internalized misogyny. If you’re in a relationship where you’re giving more than you’re getting, that’s a horrible relationship and you should leave.

    I find this accusation funny because I am a feminist and I used to be misandrist in that sort of tumbler way I didn’t like mean it but I said a lot of stuff that hurt him and of course I cheated.

    I think this lead to me self sabotaging our relationship because I loved him but felt like showing it was selling out. I did a lot of stupid stuff like the no porn rue, I said that I preferred penises larger then his in front of him to a friend (I was lying and I apologized afterwards) and I even tried charging him for sex because I felt men didn’t appreciate a woman’s value and I was a big believer in that dworkin quote that a husband is basically a john.


  • I want to add some other context, so this boy is just a great person. He is the one that got e t quit, he worked overtime to pay for my rehab at a nice in person cent and I loved it so much it’s what got me to quit and I still have friends from there. He help tutor kids he is just good.

    He also has not had a great life, he has moderately wealthy parents but they were obsessed with making him earn everything. They made him get a job at age 15, that doesn’t sound too bad but this job was installing hvac systems uner houses in the california summer. He had to crawl under houses deal with hvac tubing insulation and yes bugs and snakes. Also his dad died as a teenager

    The reason I bring this up is because I have as I gotten sober did more thinking on the world and doing the work to make a change. The thing I hate most about life is bad people win, Trump,Elon Musk,Jeff Bezos the works. I feel by making the small sacrifice of having a sub optimal relationship dynamic I am making it so that for once the good guy wins.

    Again I have not always been the best girlfriend or even person. I was an addict I stole and sold to support my habit I cheated on him several times I was hypocritical not letting him watch porn while I cheated on him was sexually stingey .

    I feel I have something to make up for and I will not run I will face the consequences of my actions

    Everyone knows that men benefit more from relationships then women, I am taking on that burden to make it up to him






  • Thanks for the reply

    though I fail to see how the karma system makes them money.

    the only thing I can think of is maybe it’s an attempt to artificially increase how much time you post on the site.

    To me it’s like business charging to use the bathroom, the reason they don’t is because for every dollar they make from people paying they lose money from people boycotting the business on principle.

    Again to use my spotify example would spotify be successful if it forced you to listen to artist you didn’t care about to listen to the music you want to hear ? “I know you want to listen to the Lana Del Ray but first you have to listen to 1 hour of Limp Bizkit”

    For very one user that sucks it up and uses the site anyway they likely lose people who don’t want to deal with it or are like me and get blocked from using the site.

    Again if it was all about money why can’y you pay to skip it ?

    Also it creates post friction since people are scared to wreck their karma so there is that.