I used to be that way. Then I saw that the “good in people” who are able to “ignore the bad stuff” in that book, doesn’t change the fact that they are bombs that simply don’t happen to be exploding right now.
If you change to one of their “triggers” or if they begin to see you or the world in a way that triggers their religious fervor, they can pivot to being the horrors in an instant.
I hope you never have to watch the eyes of a loved one who’s always seemed to have a very good heart, glaze over as they switch gears to “you’re the devil and no action is off the table to ‘cleanse’ you”. Because they all have that switch. Every single one of them.
I would never want to be able to overlook this aspect of a person. Just like I wouldn’t want to be able to overlook Joanne just to enjoy a mid story about wizards. Or work for the carceral system just for a paycheck.
If I were cowering from these people, or reacting in excess caution to a non-existent threat, I would agree that therapy would be useful for my viewpoint. As a trans person, I can only imagine that you were experiencing one or the other, and that is why you suggested them for me, assuming that I was suffering similarly.
I very much appreciate the concern for my mental health. I am properly cautious, like you should be of venomous snakes.
I do try, yet struggle, with differentiating in nuance. I think it’s important to see the good in people, as well as the problems.
I don’t think I have exactly a utilitarian world view, but there’s definitely some aspects of that in my judgement in certain questions.
I used to be that way. Then I saw that the “good in people” who are able to “ignore the bad stuff” in that book, doesn’t change the fact that they are bombs that simply don’t happen to be exploding right now.
If you change to one of their “triggers” or if they begin to see you or the world in a way that triggers their religious fervor, they can pivot to being the horrors in an instant.
I hope you never have to watch the eyes of a loved one who’s always seemed to have a very good heart, glaze over as they switch gears to “you’re the devil and no action is off the table to ‘cleanse’ you”. Because they all have that switch. Every single one of them.
Friend. I am trans and have ADHD. Pfft, been there, needtogototherapyfor that.
I would never want to be able to overlook this aspect of a person. Just like I wouldn’t want to be able to overlook Joanne just to enjoy a mid story about wizards. Or work for the carceral system just for a paycheck.
If I were cowering from these people, or reacting in excess caution to a non-existent threat, I would agree that therapy would be useful for my viewpoint. As a trans person, I can only imagine that you were experiencing one or the other, and that is why you suggested them for me, assuming that I was suffering similarly.
I very much appreciate the concern for my mental health. I am properly cautious, like you should be of venomous snakes.
Edit: also, 🫂🫂🫂