Best advice I can give is this: have a “say yes” mentality in your social life. Someone asks you to go do anything/attend any event, say yes.

Also, in terms of academics, treat it like your job --8 hrs a day, five days per week. Stay on top of stuff. Don’t put off doing what can be done today. For big essays or projects, work on it in parts (day 1 outline; day 2 supporting sources; day three first third of rough draft; and so on and so forth).

Best of luck.

And yeah I am kinda scared now idk.

“don’t worry about it”. 😐 Which is bad advice to someone after burnout and specifically asking for advice, but it’s also kind of true.

But first things first:

Even today I tried striking some casual convos but seniors have some attitude towards freshers i guess, and freshers were too busy completing their docs maybe.

Some people are just… useless and weird. Don’t bother with them. Like, don’t stress about why someone doesn’t want to talk with you, or does or doesn’t do something. Including professors. Some are nice, some are just there to do their job, and you will be able to tell which is which. I’ve met plenty of people who can’t hold a conversation to save their lives. Somehow.

mostly I just find hard to relate with them.

Yeah, that’s normal. The world is a big place, chances are you won’t relate to many people.

My biggest, best piece of advice is to join some student club that does stuff that’s not just studying and does it more consistently than just one semester for some course. For example a sports club, who does try and does go to meets and stuff, but the point is enjoying the sport together. Or art. Or books. Or science. That’s where I had most fun and where I got most out of my time.

Because studying is hit and miss. Of course you try to go for something interesting but you never know in advance if you can actually stand the work or do the workload or if you need to switch… majors I think it’s college? Don’t worry about that either.

The ONLY THING you absolutely must do, is attend. Get out of bed, and just GO, try to pay attention in the classes and take notes. That’s the barrier most people fail at. They skip classes or attend but don’t pay attention. Put yourself into the situation where “learning” is just the thing you do. Like going to the library, reviewing your material and planning your day in advance to do it.

And everyone is constantly stressed for time too. It’s a good idea to focus on some studying, but don’t reject opportunities that are coming your way because you think it’ll conflict with that. Occasionally try to do more than you think you can handle and you’ll surprise yourself when it works out. Those places are filled with other students who want to do stuff and “career opportunities” (companies trying to score cheap employees) and events and this and that. Just go and keep your eyes open.

I’m back in school at ~40, so you got back on track quicker than I did!

Consult ratemyprofessor.com but don’t treat it like a bible, sometimes teachers with a strong personality get bad reviews. But if it’s mostly bad reviews that’s a red flag.

Be SO unashamed to ask questions, nobody is taking these classes because they already know everything. Asking questions is a shortcut to showing you’re engaged and thinking, on top of it just helping you to understand something. If you’re wondering, someone else is too.

If a teacher is an ass to you over this or anything else, you can usually withdraw from a class and get your money back in the first week or two of classes.

Look for clubs you’re interested in and participate. Check out stuff that sounds interesting but you know nothing about. Maybe be a little on the look out for cults and multilevel marketing.

Take the time to volunteer for a cause you feel strongly about. It doesn’t have to be a huge amount of time or every week, but it’s worth doing, and usually benefits whatever clubs you’re in.

I consider myself introverted as well, it was scary to learn to do a lot of this stuff but I think it’s really worth pushing through the discomfort.

Just be sure you have the college stuff sorted out first, like all the registering and scheduling and learning where things are, to make sure that important primary mission is successful. With the college bureaucracy stuff sorted out and working, you can put those deal-breaking hassles behind you and focus on doing more cool stuff.

If there are bars and places where bands play, be sure to check those out. Sometimes you can meet cool people, and find out about parties. College parties are the best. College towns are the easiest places to get laid also, so be sure to have sex whenever you can.

Learn about the “growth” mindset online or from the college.

I’d say youre very normal in that regard. All freshmen are awkward and probably scared to respond or talk to new people.

Today’s phone addicted world is a lot different than when I went, but I’d still say having conversations, smiling, are all good easy things still. You can get a mentor in college and often they will assign one to you for freshmen. Will you have a roommate? I myself never liked any of my roommates and the best times were when they dropped out and I had my own room. I had a campus job which was a lot of fun and pretty relaxed. Maybe look for that if you want some easy side money and to meet folks.

The majority of people tend to think they need to get drunk to have a good time so drinking will be a very popular thing, if youre in the US. Wasnt my thing so I never went to parties.

I don’t do any sports but football games and crap are a good way to meet people. I’m not someone who likes those types of people generally so I didnt do that. But Frisbee golf is fun sometimes.

I totally get the not relating part. My hobbies tend to be completely out of the norm even though to me seem like something everyone does (cars, music, videogames, but specific eras). Anyway, youll find a friend group thats into the stuff you are. Usually I would try to see if I vibe with someone by asking what music they liked or what car they drive. Sometimes that gets you a weird look or you get the most average “I like all music. Ummm I think its a Toyota” which usually for me was a sign that they probably won’t vibe with my interests. Or just ask what they do for fun. Or the age old “what’s your major”.

Also remember, most kids are assholes. Their brains havent developed and they may have had bad parenting plus now toxic news and social media addictions. So its probably not you if you get weird reactions from them.