That doubting voice in your head that tells you why you’ll fail? Ask it back: “is this helping?”

If it doesn’t answer “yes”, tell it to fuck right off and then keep on doing what you’re doing.

(This has been an oversimplified commercial for cognitive behaviour therapy.)

Do it scared.

Go for easy wins. If it’s cleaning my house, pick up one or two socks, I put it in the right spot, then find something in the area I dropped the socks off, get that organized. And just keep doing that until everything is where I feel it needs to be.

If it’s a healthy habit, daily flossing as an example, I don’t beat myself over missing a day or three, I just focus on the fact I am going to do it today, in fact as soon as I am able to. Make some kind of reminder for you to do it again, either in your calendar, or by placing floss packs in places you will notice them, or your wallet, phone etc.

Focus from induced panic is only for things I would be in trouble for not completing.

I went to a doctor and got anti depressants

If you dont believe in yourself who will ?.

No one else gets to define you. Only you. It doesn’t matter what people think.

Just put in the work daily and the results will come. Use a habit tracking app to gamify it if needed.

If your circle is getting you down or doubting you, change your circle. Not everyone wants to see you succeed. As you get older you cut people out that no longer align with the life you want for yourself. It can be friends and also family.

You got this OP

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For me something that helps a lot is doing things not for myself, but for others: can’t clean up your house? Help a friend who also cannot do it, clean up their house. Doing something for others feels good in general, and it allows me to procrastinate on my own stuff, while doing something worthwhile nonetheless. And then when I return to my own problems eventually, I have these memories of myself doing the very things that my brain is telling me I cannot do, which is a great source of inspiration to l not listen to that part of my brain.

Baby toe unexpectedly hitting an immovable object works pretty well short term, but is hardly a grest solution. Best solution other than seeking professional help is to try hobbies that encourage live human interaction.

Not sure if you mean getting stuck in negative thought patterns, or just failing to follow through, but if its the former:

Buddhist meditation is centred around the idea that you can exercise conscious control over your thoughts. By recognising thoughts (not just negative thoughts) and eliminating them one at a time, you enter a meditative trance.

Once developed, that skill can be used to get out of a negative thought spiral.

Just be aware that there are all sorts of Buddhists and meditation out there. Some people will tell you that just sitting still is meditation. That would not be as useful. I found Awakening the Buddha Within by Lama Surya Das (A white ethnically Jewish American guy despite the name!) to be a great start.

Listen to audio books

Some people find it helpful to name the negative self-talk voice. Then you can say things like, “shut up, Karen. You never have useful suggestions.”

There is also something in toddler parenting called a “no thanks bite.” That’s the first vite of food that you have to decide if you want to say “no thanks.” It works with toddlers because there is less pressure around eating, and you are allowed to try new things that you might later decide not to have.

The adult version is the same. When trying out a new health routine, etc., you can do a “no thanks try.” Say, I am going to go to the gym this week and next week. If it works out, I may go again after that, or I may not. It just depends on whether it fits in my routine.

Remember that we have routines for reasons. We don’t always know why. Routines are very hard to change while the underlying reasons persist.

If you’re able to form healthy habits before you eventually break them, you’re not doing too bad, I’d take that as a great sign!

For me, medication helps me be more focused and keep up with things for longer.

Talking with my psychologist about this and admittedly it’s not easy because finding a tool that works for you individually is the hard part.

For me running does it but if I can’t run what do I do? We are working on body scanning which helps a bit. Slow down and distract your mind. I’m going to start reading again for example.

What you need to work in understanding is as I put it theres two competing voices in my head and the self sabotage is there because, and it’s fucked up, it’s a way of protecting yourself. You need to acknowledge it but also tell it when it’s not the time or place

It depends. Do you have self confidence issues or could you be neurodivergent?

Self-forgiveness, practicing thankfulness, and incremental growth.

I tend to ruminate on my failures and shortcomings. Guilt can be a powerful motivator/teacher for positive change, but dwelling on it for too long or too much prevents you from following through on those lessons. At some point before that happens you need to forgive yourself and give yourself permission to move forward past that guilt. I found myself doing this so many times I eventually put together a playlist of songs to help me reset, forgive myself, and restart. I recommend you do something similar. https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLeC2eNJHSGPcKuKjBAMN8sS7F_Vt9gqsN

There is no point in working on a life that has no joy or good in it. When I ruminate I tend to lose sight of the good things that are already present. Acknowledging those good things, even if they feel sparse or small, may help you feel the potential for more good things or inspire new goals and things you want to achieve.

Incremental growth is the hardest but most powerful thing of these three. When I first acknowledged that I was cycling between short highs and long lows, my goal was simple; during the few times I felt good, instead of basking in feeling good before the crash invest that good feeling into either making future good times longer or bad times shorter. It took many slow years before I started hitting a tipping point where the good started to outweigh the bad, and even then one bad thing happening out of my control threw me back several steps. It takes a lot of patience with yourself to grow, but the other two things I mentioned makes it easier.