I’ve noticed that there seems to be an emphasis on being extremely serious at all times, as if every single comment is a PhD dissertation being evaluated or something. There’s like this weird, subtle one upmanship about every little thing and a lot of people are very nitpicky and judgmental. It kind of takes the fun out of being on here, TBH. Or am I the only one experiencing this?
Sounds like Lemmy’s already shaping up to compete with Reddit!
OK I’m kidding - I think you’re kind of right, Lemmy can get that sometimes, but much like Reddit, it’s only really on the bigger communities that you always see on the front page, smaller ones are pretty chill in my experience.
I guess it depends on what you’re seeing hostility towards, but I will also say that with Lemmy’s status as an open source social media trying to compete against the likes of Reddit and Facebook, I find that the people here are naturally more protective of it from the sort of thing you’ll see on other sites. Also because of Lemmy’s status, it also attracts a LOT of political discussion, which has always been the most likely thing to descend into hostile crap flinging.
Oh, I should also mention, please just block the whole entire .ml instance. I can guarantee that it will improve your Lemmy experience and your mental health. I did it in my first few days here, and I sometimes forget just how bad it was before I did block it!
No it just feels like a young forum.
Same as with Reddit, it probably depends what community you’re participating in. But i find most of Lemmy to be mostly reasonable like the communities I participated in Reddit. And mind you, I don’t have any particular Lemmy communities I frequent in.
Its raw internet. You gotta put effort into customizing it to your taste.
Not at all, actually.
No. Get a feel for communities and instances. Different horses for different courses.
Having said that there are people here who take shitposts seriously, that have disdain for socialism and go to .ml, that run their mouth in Blahaj about things they don’t understand etc. Then there are the people who don’t understand that instances are governed by the laws of their physical location, like the entire UK being “banned” from .zip (?) and .world having an overly protective (imo) attitude towards Zionist atrocities etc.
It’s a defederated global platform - there should be no (or very little) homogeny.
I hope you find what you’re looking for and enjoy your time here.
The only social media I have ever gotten into was Reddit. I was on that platform for over a decade. But eventually it became too toxic and caused me way too much stress. Every innocuous post or comment I made was subject to a barrage of unnecessary and unjustified criticism. I was constantly being banned anywhere from 72-hours to permanently for no logical reason. So after a decade I deleted my account.
I’ve noticed Lemmy seems to be going this way too compared to when I first joined a year and a half ago. The user base seems to be swelling with self-righteous Karens waiting to tear down any and all content. And, just like Reddit, the mods are falling dutifully into line behind them. Lemmy is far less enjoyable today than it was only six months ago. If trolls just ranted I’d ignore and block but the mods support them by deleting content. I’m a grown ass man pushing sixty years old. I can make my own mind up about content and comments. I don’t need somebody else doing it for me.
Honestly, to me it feels more insular than Reddit. It feels like there’s no room for nuance in opinion. So for example, if I argue against something that isn’t a hard left economic idea I’ll get down voted pretty heavily even though it’s a pretty tame comment. It does feel like if you go against the grain here, it’s actually worse than that other site.
On Reddit if I posted something against the grain there would usually be one or two people who would chime in and say “yeah. I agree with this guy.” … But on Lemmy there’s no room for that.
True. I’ve noticed this especially when it comes to any feminist content or just vaguely women-centric opinions. In particular, this is probably due to the comparatively and relatively small number of women on Lemmy
Nuance on the Internet? Not allowed, fuck off
/s cause last time I made this comment a mod deleted it
Hostile, no not really. Less tolerance for bullshit isn’t necessarily hostile.
Insular? Yeah. It’s a small community.
less tolerance for other valid opinions is hostile though. You can’t call differing opinions bullshit
It is still way better than Reddit. There will always be cunts out there.
Absolutely. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve been burned at the stake for this three times over already.
For me it’s the same as reddit. Still there aren’t specific communities I was in or at least they’re not big so I can’t really select what I see. But there’re still lots of memes and stuff idk.
I mean I didn’t go to a lot of places there, how people are there mostly depends on the community you’re in.
Classic internet warriors, but if you don’t care about how much upvotes and downvotes you have, you are golden. Banned from a community? Probably not a place I would want to hang out then anyway, even if it is my topic, the community is simply toxic and it’s better not to be there. Just be yourself.
Treating every comment you disagree with as through it were a dissertation is called Isolated Demand For Rigor and it’s a bad faith tactic used to burden the opponent with a workload no sane person would ever take on for an internet comment and win by default. You should probably block anybody you see who does that.
I appreciate the people who come in with receipts, it really gives a vibe that critical thinking is worth the effort, which is something that, I feel, is super important in nowadays and times.
I’ve come across one or two grumpy gus’ who seem mostly unhappy with their lives, or incapable of changing their mind, even if all evidence contradicting what their original brain blip stated.
But it’s gunna be a mix like that. Because we are a subset of people, using this site. I tell my kids all the time, people fill the same pie chart of behaviours, regardless of what culture, place they come from or belief’s they have, there’s always a tiny percentage of dickheads, that seem more because they’re very loud or intrusive. That have a very sad life, with no ability to grow wisdom or enjoy things around them, which is sad!
When I first came here from reddit a few years ago (I had to change instances etc, and I’m not as tech savvy as most people here) I was super sensitive and raw, from all the bruising reddit gave out. It’s getting a little salve, being here.
I love the humour here! I’ve been so tempted to tell everyone how much I laughed at their humour! I go and read comments first before articles, for 2 reasons because there’s just comedy gold everywhere. And most of the time the people explain the article better than the article explains the things, the people here are so smart! Theres so many people who explain things like they already know that industry intimately and in great depth. This is such a great place to learn, it’s given me some great inspiration to deep dive into subjects.
The user base here seems rather worldly balanced, too. And they’ll drop their impressions of a thing from the view of their culture, which I could not appreciate more!
This is a brilliant place, with wonderful people who might be having a bad day, here and there, as we all do. I really hope you can find your groove, and not let the turkeys get you down.
