They got a lot worse over the years, and they’re exist to extract money, not to provide a service to its users.

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    Meetup.com and similar, go to as many hobbies and clubs and events as possible, but only pick things you genuinely care about

    Passion about interests is incredibly sexy, almost as sexy as having fun doing things you like without explicitly looking for a relationship.

    Date me now, is the most unsexy though, cause it’s ignoring the person, instead treating them as an abstract goal to reach

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      This is useless advice people love to parrot. The reality is people go to hobbies to do hobbies, not to find partners. You’ll be the creep in the corner and o ly be disappointed aging.

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        It also ignores the gender imbalance of a lot of hobbies. You know how many women I’ve met at the RC field? Two. The wives of two pilots who just come to hang out and enjoy the weather lol

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        I mean the reality is that the best way to find a relationship is to aim for the ground and miss

        As in aim for just making friends, and improving your own mental health, and you’re own social life, and accidentally getting a relationship by just finding people who you like hanging out with that like you as well.