• JackbyDev@programming.dev
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    9 days ago

    When you say things like “some women can’t resist assholes” it sounds like red pill rhetoric. A better way to say it might be like “some assholes prey on women’s insecurities”. Keep the focus on the person who is the problem, not the victims.

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      9 days ago

      When you say things like “some assholes prey on women’s insecurities” it’s incredibly condescending, especially when you consider that women can also be assholes.

      Like begets like. I’ve known too many couples where both of the people in the relationship are trash.

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      A better way to say it might be like “some assholes prey on women’s insecurities”. Keep the focus on the person who is the problem, not the victims.

      idk I think that’s needlessly condescending to women, not all of them dating assholes are victims, some just like assholes because they like asshole behavior because they’re also an asshole.

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      9 days ago

      I keep the focus where I want, that doesn’t change the asshole-victim situation, and I won’t save anyone if I change the wording.