(A funny meme for you, if you’re wondering about the picture)

So to preface, like everyone else, I came from reddit, a website that I left due to some subs that I don’t want to name as they are personal to me.

The reason I left is because it got flooded with stupid people, and I realised that the only reason I kept using Reddit was to argue with those fools.

But the thing is, that simply cutting out reddit didn’t solve my problem, which is that I really hate a lot of people and I’m not even going to deny it.

A lot of them deserve it tho, I’m mostly talking about those jerks who try to stample on others to feel better about themselves. I hate how this word got “ruined” but to be precise I’m talking about “bigoted” people.

Anyways l just because they “deserve” the hate (or don’t) I still feel angry after meeting people like this and I honestly don’t know what to do now.

EDIT: made formatting better

    • redditistrash@lemmy.worldOP
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      21 days ago

      I don’t know what that means, because unfortunately I am both autistic and not and english speaker

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    21 days ago

    I realize that this is just satire in a cartoon and everything but I don’t really like the negative stigma given the gamers being a 42-year-old gamer at this point in my life and a professional that makes good money and is a responsible adult, it’s kind of annoying to see any group of people painted poorly like this. it’s funny how phrases like One bad Apple ruin the whole damn bunch seem to just always ring true.

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    20 days ago

    If every other person you meet “is stupid” the problem might not be other people.

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    21 days ago

    Being truly intellectually challenged is not something one decides on, so I have patience and overall try to believe in the natural goodness of people, which can be obfuscated by heavy propaganda (if you’re in the Fire nations/Ba Sing Ses of the world, that’s a guarantee), a postmodern lack of ideology and moral relativism, the wrong lessons learned from childhood trauma, etc. Many people online with morally disgusting takes are just paid for them too, don’t forget (saying something wild but without a moral component doesn’t affect people as much). Basically: give people the benefit of the doubt until you’re certain that they’re not complete, unrepentant c*nts, then accommodate them as much as you can and correct them if possible.

    Also, if there’s one thing I’ve learned from my somewhat lengthy relationship: we’re all “difficult” one way or another, someone is already ‘accommodating’ you if you have any friends/family/loved ones.

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      21 days ago

      Also, if there’s one thing I’ve learned from my somewhat lengthy relationship: we’re all “difficult” one way or another, someone is already ‘accommodating’ you if you have any friends/family/loved ones.

      Can’t stress this one enough. We’re all that person to others from time to time. Being more positive than negative helps to combat that.

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    21 days ago

    I read your comment and I feel you. I have a little advice.

    First a but about memI “left” reddit for the same reasons. Left is in quotes because I was permanently banned because I argued with a major mod. Specifically I said after they banned me from a sub “ouch ouch ouch, sorry sprained my ankle tripping over 3 identical communities” to which they replied “don’t message me again” and I of course did with a “or what? You’ll silence me? That’s not very intimidating”

    Anyway my point is this:

    There’s no point in arguing with stupid people… But if you are going to I recommend being dismissive or different. They are prepared for aggression they can’t handle being dismissed. It really messes with bigoted people especially.

    An example from my life

    Guy at the gas station to me: can you believe the cashier is speaking Spanish? This is America lol

    Me: it’s 7 o’clock in the morning. Can you save the racism until after breakfast please.

    An example of "different " would be this

    I live in Orlando, we have Nazis who protest. I LOVE to walk by and say to a random one “you don’t look good bald. You’re heads too boxy to pull it off”

    It fucks with them more than yelling I promise you lol. They aren’t expecting that kind of thing.

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    20 days ago

    The fact that you’re asking the question means you’ve made a lot of progress already. Give yourself real credit for wanting to be a better person. A lot of people don’t ever reach that point.

    I’m working on the same things myself and I don’t think there are any simple or complete solutions. All you can do is keep in mind where you want to be, look at where you are, and try to get a little closer all the time.

    You can’t control how you feel, but you can control what you do about it. Don’t act on your anger. Treat everyone as if they are a decent person, even if you don’t really think they are. You don’t have to enable them or accept the destructive things they do, but show kindness when you can and show sorrow, instead of anger, when you can’t.

    Do this for yourself. Even if nothing else changes, it will change you. And over time, it will have a positive effect on other people, even if you often won’t know.

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    21 days ago

    Reddit’s decline was inevitable, sadly. The redesign (and re-redesign) are clearly tailored to idiots.

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    I see you meant trample not sample. I was kicked off reddit for a reason lemme really likes.

    I have “love your enemies” rattling in my brain for the past few days and I have comparing it to “you have no enemies”. They almost seem mutually exclusive but make you act very similarly. I get how trampling on people makes people like me feel better that it’s toxic and well if people to trample on me I’d accept it and let them know I understand why they’re doing it.

    I can accept that people drink alcohol, do drugs, and prey on those they precieve weaker than them. I do see people get mad at other people drinking and doing drugs with real passion behind it. it’s weird to say it’s really a perspective thing.

    My best advice is to try to understand them. If they’re truly angry assholes they can’t explain and they’ll get frustrated at their inability to articulate and precieve your question as a form of (self projected) hostility, if they are trying to communicate to you they’ll make an attempt to say why they’re angry. I like to think that if you matured enough you’ll just say what you don’t like and why you don’t like it.