Edit: because a few comments make me worry that some are taking this seriously - this meme is a play on the type of hopeless dating posts you might find in less healthy corners of the internet. The joke is a suggestion that the real problem is that one man in the image has some sort of arrow-attracting superpower.

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    The fact that dating apps allow you to filter by height and not weight literally says it all

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    So a possible answer is to live as a hermit in the middle of nowhere. And if a woman appears for some reason, she will have no choice but your long bearded, long matted haired, musk scented, disheveled, gaunt self as a possible mate.

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    I know it’s a joke, but I feel like to be fair to both genders, each man here should arrows pointing to every woman.

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      The original image, and your extension, are an emergent behavior as a result of The Algorithm - due to “scarcity”, Player B (men) is (are) encouraged to roll the dice as frequently as possible.

      This whole dynamic is real, results in negative interactions for both players, and is intentionally set up by the apps to maintain engagement and extract as much money via pay-to-play advantages as possible. Dating apps are rigged to give men and women bad experiences so they (largely men) become desperate enough to pay $25 a month or whatever to have an unfair advantage.

      The internet (and other players!) likes to hate the players, not the game, and the only “comfort” many young men have is Tate and Co.

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        Dating apps are rigged to give men and women bad experiences so they (largely men) become desperate enough to pay $25 a month or whatever to have an unfair advantage.

        It gets worse, as the engagement mechanic populates the apps with a particular kind of guy who is obnoxiously aggressive, persistent, and convinced that this is a game they can brute force with time/money. So women end up being introduced to a string of guys who believe they’ve “won” a date by “beating” the game while women are left fishing for profiles that don’t look completely gross or insane.

        And that’s before you get into end-users who are straight up escorts or pimps or predators, fully internalizing the idea that site participants are just resources to extract.

        It isn’t merely about giving people a bad experience, but to give them a cheap thrill that keeps them coming back to the apps without ever finding a fulfilling relationship that would render the website superfluous.

        The internet (and other players!) likes to hate the players, not the game, and the only “comfort” many young men have is Tate and Co.

        Tate on one side and Estee Williams on the other. Men are told to treat women like a commodity - interchangeable, disposable, and ultimately hostile to your personal interests - that you rent out when you’ve accrued enough surplus wealth. Women are told to embrace submissiveness, obsess over superficial appearance, and pursue men based entirely on their socio-economic status in pursuit of the same kind of passive incomes that Tate is selling.

        These conservative icons put men and women into an inherent contradictory position, with the idea of two people coming together as collaborators (much less romantic partners) is fully alien. You’re purchasing a man’s income with your looks. He’s purchasing your looks with his hustle-money. You’re both purchasing the other’s status, with an eye towards a higher rung on the ladder. Neither one of sees the other as a life partner.

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          The commodification of our most base needs, such as romantic relationships, is truly troubling. So much unrest because things like food, shelter, and reproduction are paywalled. Makes the population more vulnerable to fascist ideals.

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      with some exceptions… the abnormally skinny man has an unhealthy fixation on fat women, but its not love and anyone will do, and a few on each side are gay, some aren’t interested in anyone at all, some only interested in themselves, etc

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          That’s due to large demographic disparities, in the physical world it works like I said. Also it’s a meme.

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    If you’re an average guy tempted to believe this, allow me, as an average guy who gets plenty of women, to tell you how it works. You are the one with the arrows, but if you don’t shoot your shot, out of fear of rejection, you’re never going to get what you want. So get out there and start shooting your shot.

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    This is absolutely how online dating goes. There have been studies that show women always go for the most attractive guys on the site, despite whatever BS they might claim.

    Real life, not necessarily.

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      But what’s attractive is very subjective especially for women. Yes there are some general things being somewhat fit, decent hygiene, symmetrical proportions but there are plenty of studies that show women find the same man with a wide range of attractiveness vs men who have a much more narrow and agreed upon what is attractive. One thing that’s more consistent is appearance of wealth makes men more attractive to most women.

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    I remember hitting puberty and realizing most of the guys had crushes on the same three or four basic makeup pasted fake ass girls so….sure whatever you say

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    The only choice is to be totally out of the dating game so completely that you have no idea what any of this even mean.

    Me going about my hermit ways living in the forest without interacting with anyone 😌

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        Hellooo. Hope we can trade some cabbages if the need arises. I’ve been thinking hard about getting a pet and would like to have a cat as the number one on the list.

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          Oh you shooooouuuld! Animal’s company seem to push me further into hermithood though.

          I went heavy handed on potatoes and radishes this year but no cabbage yet. Not too late though, I’ll keep some for you if I manage to grow some

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            That sounds great. I’ve thought about a getting a rabbit too, but I’m not sure yet.

            I managed to have some strawberries which survived long enough and were not bad. But it seems dead now. Still got some herbs like parsley. Herbs are hard to keep 🥲.