Communication and understanding. First marriage, there were tons of fights and the anger that lingers on from that trickles into other conversations that would normally be harmless.
This time around, been my by SO for 3.5 years and not a single fight. We’re clear with each other when we don’t like something said we bring it up. And constantly bringing up our honest thoughts and feelings.
As far as understanding, we took the approach of throwing all cards on the table right at the beginning, expressing our ways of handling things, good/bad habits, all of it. Left no room for unexpected surprises later on.
Not physically or emotionally abusive, doesn’t leave me… doesn’t exist…
He can make me cum
My current partner listens to me speak and remembers what I talk about
She is psychologically healthy. Even more so than I am.
It has gone on forty years. None of the others lasted even a tiny portion of that.
It’s one more, isn’t it?
It is all imaginary :(