

I think it just shows how little they actually value women in any way, shape or form.
They see trans men as a total joke, that they’ll never be a “real” man, and of course women would want to be a man! Being a man is the greatest thing ever and only thing these people have going for them, and in effect, transmen affirm their gender identity as being “the best”.
It’s the same reason they hate transwomen so much. They have such a low view of women, it disgusts them that anyone would willingly lower themselves to that level. It attacks their idea that being a straight white men is the best thing ever, and the idea that maybe it’s not, and someone would willingly give up their masculinity and be happier is beyond horrifying to them.
The one thing I will add is that the soul searching isn’t always visible, which was what made it so hard for my family/friends to understand when I came out. To them, it seemed like a very sudden and “snap” decision, when the reality was that I had spent years at that point reflecting and doing soul searching, but was so terrified about what it meant and how they might see me, I never told anyone about it.
I definitely think that this dad did a solid job overall, and even as an adult transitioning in their late 20s, I would have loved this response vs how my parents handled it…