Honestly no. We have a multi million income, let’s hire an actual chef so we can get properly nourished as opposed to just some variation of Italian food each night.
she will run off into the sunset with your new italian chef
Then she pays me alimony?
Yes but If I’m to quit my job I’ll require something substantial in a no fault divorce.
I’m on a 3-month parental leave with my 10-month-old and I’m doing this already. It’s fucking great. My wife (who makes six figures) has been so equally happy with the temporary arrangement that she has floated the idea of me (in a few years) getting the fuck out of my labor job (that is slowly destroying my body one appendage at a time) and doing this all the time.
I’m not completely against the idea, but the stigma is a lot to overcome. I don’t want to be measured as worthless by everyone around me for being a stay-at-home trad dad, when I’ve spent my entire adult life working my ass off, managing teams, and wearing down my body.
But going for quiet walks every morning and trying my hand at writing fiction sure sounds attractive…
- Find a random company that no one has heard of (or make one up)
- Tell everyone you switched to a boring remote paper pusher job for health reasons
- Enjoy your dream life
OR
- Fuck everyone, who cares what they think
- Enjoy your dream life
a) her?
b) with that kind of cash, someone else can do the cooking; but I’ll definitely stay at home
Every day? Even back when I could cook that would be a no. Because that’s not a relationship, that’s a job.
I’m fine with being a SAH h/d. Hell, if I were a dad in that situation it would be amazing to have the freedom to be there every day, at least until the teenage years hit and the kid/s would be branching out into the first stages of their own lives. Being a dad that is disabled was better than being a dad that couldn’t be at home because he was a wage slave. So being healthy and having that freedom too? Sign me up.
But the way the meme makes it out, that’s just a job. Might still be a good relationship, but once obligations at that scale start creeping in, relationships can crumble faster than people can patch them up.
That being said, I fucking loved cooking for my people. So I would still do it every chance I got in that situation. Just couldn’t let it be some kind of transactional shit.
Well it is a job, but it’s also a relationship. The two aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive. In the OP, the one person presumably has a job where they are working outside of the home. The other person’s job is to cook inside of the home.
In fact, thinking about it like a job might be even better because then you can set clearer boundaries, like “days off/vacations” from cooking.
In general, it seems like the stay at home spouse is expected to be “always on”, but people get burnt out and relationships get strained that way. People need more breaks and clearly defined delineations for that.
