It never really occurred to me I might just not have those specific social skills nailed down. 😅 Because irl, I have plenty of ease chatting people up and making new friends. Same with dating or professional networking, it all comes naturally in person.

But online, in writing, it’s so awkward for me. I see folks make long term friendships just hanging out in group chats or discord servers. Meanwhile, I manage to just get into arguments and not really manage to share anything interesting about myself otherwise. I might just not be finding my people, but who knows where that is right?

Anyone got pro tips for making friends in text chats or forums?

  • Untamed_Star@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    1·
    2 days ago

    I don’t have friends, at least not online nor offline and I am usually the one to talk the ones I have offline but that stuff is real complicated because of various reasons.

  • dragon-donkey3374@sh.itjust.works
    6·
    3 days ago

    I don’t even know how to make friends irl. Even on a gaming discord channel, I’ll see people in the voice chat playing a game I’m playing and be like, ‘If I go in there, what am I going to say? I have nothing to say. I don’t even know these people. Fuck it, I’m not going in there. I’m going to play on my own, fuck them, those fucking assholes.’

    And then nothing changes.

  • Em Adespoton@lemmy.ca
    2·
    3 days ago

    In forums and chats, go places where you can ask questions as much as you can tell people why they’re wrong.

    The way to make friends with people is to listen to them.

    • TeaWithDani@lemmy.worldOP
      1·
      3 days ago

      Yeah, questions are always less confrontational. It’s also a good equalizer, especially if you show you aren’t scared to appear foolish. Puts people at ease I think. Gives them the space to explain their thinking rather than defend themselves.

  • trashcroissant@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    2·
    3 days ago

    Same tbh. I don’t have any tips but would love to learn! I’m also awful at keeping long distance friendships unless they’re okay to just exchange memes every day.