I want all people to know that basically 0 people find the sullen rejected demeanor attractive. The ones that do are usually manipulators.
Ask them out. If it costs you everything it was never going to be something.
Ask them out. If it costs you everything it was never going to be something.
I wouldn’t say never. Attraction potential can change drastically over time. Maybe it would cost you everything today, but not after a year of self-improvement: diet, exercise, hobbies, hygiene, etc.
Hell, even time by itself might be enough to shift the other person’s values. Maybe today they just want to party and have casual sex with hot strangers, but in a year or two they might want a serious relationship with someone they trust.
All big “maybes”, but to ignore them is a bit reductionist. People are complicated.
She felt the same before you knew she felt that way, the only thing that changed was your awareness. In general seek that which seeks you, no one needs to convince someone else to love them. If what you desire to seek you does not you only have two options, change what you desire or change yourself to attract what you desire.
Do not mistake confessing your feelings with flirting. Those are two entirely different things.
