We’re having a major go-live this month. Management wanted someone to visit on the third (when we observe the holiday). I volunteered because: I’m close, my kids are all grown, and I’m technically part of the management team.

While I was there, there was an issue. I dutifully reached out to one of the people managing some processes to see if her processes could be causing the issue. She didn’t reply.

I told one of the managers on site that day that I was proud of her for ignoring me, that she was doing exactly what I told her she should do, and I’d be upset if she had responded.

It turns out she never got the message until today. I told her if she had actually replied I would have yelled at her for reading work messages on the holiday.

It’s a weird kind of psychosis. I had to ask her, but I was happier not getting the response than I would have been if she had replied.