I was denied sedation/effective pain meds before a procedure pretty recently. Despite the fact that I spent the entire time literally screaming in pain, they dismissed it as “anxiety” and did nothing to help.
I also received very little when I first came into the hospital - as my body was flooding with literal shit and I was fucking dying. They let me writhe and roll around for hours before they mercifully knocked me out for my operation.
I’m traumatized to the point where watching movies where people experiencing pain is upsetting. I was watching fucking Avatar the Last Airbender and wincing every time someone got punched or kicked.
I also go back to getting my IUD put in - again, another extremely painful procedure that is “not supposed to hurt” so there is no option for sedation or effective pain meds.
It feels like asking for pain meds gets you labeled as a drug seeker/addict too. I made the mistake of mentioning that I smoke weed (because I knew the anesthesiologist needs to know that) and it feels like it was instantly assumed that I’d be a pill popper too.
And I have extremely high pain tolerance. I’ve literally had people whip me until they’ve drawn blood. I’ve worked a fast food shift with a second degree (even a bit of third degree) burn going down the majority of my arm. I’m not a wuss, I know how to breathe in ways that help, I know how to go to a mind palace, but Christ, when you start digging around in someone’s guts with sharp objects, that’s not really something you can meditate away!
Is it training? Is it the fact that becoming a doctor in the U.S. requires the kind of upper middle class upbringing that doesn’t tend to help people develop empathy?
You’re female which is a detriment to appropriate medical care, being non-white is also a detriment to care. As others note there are also various systematic and medical reasons a doctor may not prescribe or use pain-relievers especially prior to understanding the problem.
I will say you need a new ob/gyn as there are recent updates that make pain relief a standard for iud insertion.
My mother literally had a gynaecologist just tell her that they’re putting her under general anesthesia for a surgery where other clinics won’t because “we don’t believe in torturing our patients”.
Thank you to that clinic. We need so many more of those in the world.
NGL as a white guy I just have to ask nicely for the good drugs and they give me opioides, granted it’s for kidney stones and it’s the most pain I’ve ever experienced, but honestly it sounds better than whatever OP was going through.
I do think I present with classic pain symptoms, I litterally can’t form sentences, which might help.
Kidney stones are known as one of the most painful things, and knowing the problem means the pain is no longer important for diagnosis.
True, however the first time they gave me fentanyl before they did a CT scan, they had figured it was stones but only had my pain to go off, so I suspect I got better treatment than if i’d been an equally erratic POC or woman, but hope I’m wrong and they’d give everyone similar treatment.