• dohpaz42@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      8
      ·
      4 days ago

      At first, not likely. But if you take the time and spend the effort to genuinely get to know your partner (on that intimate level), then yes you can learn their tells. It also takes a lot of open and honest communication, which means sometimes you or they may hear things that are not flattering. But that should be okay and encouraged, because as with anything else in life, it’s through failure that you learn and grow and get better.

    • lurch (he/him)@sh.itjust.works
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      4
      ·
      edit-2
      4 days ago

      there are usually contractions in a different rhythm you can in theory see from the outside, but for some it’s just in the private parts that aren’t visible from common positions.

      with men, if he shot his load 2 or 3 times earlier, it’s also hard to tell when nothing comes out any more.

      but i think, if the person wears a butt plug and you tape a little flag to the base, it would probably wave 3 or 4 times distinctively. but don’t hurt each other shoving random stuff up your butt!